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31 Days of Serving my Husband, a review

February 27, 2014

Hello friends! Today I am so happy to be sharing with you a brand  new devotional on marriage, one that inspires and encourages.

31 Days of Serving my Husband: the Devotional by Ashley, Domestic Fashionista
31 Days of Serving my Husband: the Devotional by Ashley, Domestic Fashionista

 

This is Ashley with her husband Brent. Aren’t they adorable? Ashley writes a bright, faith filled, loving blog called Domestic Fashionista and has captured my imagination in so many ways over the months I’ve read her sweet stuff. Her marriage devotional is just another example of how she pours out her heart and offers humility, encouragement, and scriptural framework for her ideas. She strikes the loveliest balance between instruction and very personal exchange, and she stays centered on Love. I so enjoy her warm, effervescent voice.

In just 31 different little chapters, originally a 31 day blog series, Ashley explores opportunities for growth in your marriage and shares how she has faced the same. She includes scriptures with each premise but never gets preachy. And at the end of each chapter, she asks simple, pointed questions that really stimulated my imagination. The questions are like little examinations of conscience, little challenges to “up your game” as wife.

This is actually one of the most unique and beautiful parts of the book: the notion that a better marriage can be built with personal accountability. Assessing what I can do more, better, different, or less rather than focusing on what my husband is or is not doing. And while it is written by a woman and for women, every bit of it could be enjoyed by a man and applied to the husband’s sensibility.

A quick note on that difference, which Ashley addresses gently and with great stillness of spirit: Modern feminism is a complex and fascinating topic. And the word serve has gathered lots of negative connotations in our society. It has somehow become synonymous with martyrdom and subjugation instead of love and joyful fulfillment. If you have a bitter taste in your mouth with this topic, I warmly encourage you to read Ashley’s full devotional, particularly Day 5. She is a young woman, college educated, and freely choosing her lifestyle. She debunks the ideas that marital service equals slavery… just be exuding so much joy! And she points time and again to motive and Love, not score keeping or obligation. It’s really beautiful.

His masculinity brings out my femininity, and my femininity brings out his masculinity.

Do you have five minutes to spend each day for a month, investing a little extra thought and intention into your marriage? I bet you do. And I believe that making those small, intentional investments will yield more than you can imagine. More satisfaction. More mutual appreciation. More joy. More rest. More trust. Check out Ashley’s devotional. Click and purchase it right here and start soaking up her inspiration. Then check back in here and let me know what you tried! 

Thanks for writing this, Ashley! I appreciate your sweet insights and efforts to communicate your heart. I know this ventures into delicate territory these days, and I hope that you have enjoyed lots of peace after the writing.

“When I am well, we are well.”

~Ashley Urke

XOXOXOXO

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Marathon Monday: a Happy Detour

February 25, 2014

Happy Marathon Monday! How are you? I have a quick running update (more for my own records) and some amazing news. Some encouragement for you to never stop praying for things that matter.

I finished Hal Higdon training week 8 with mixed feelings. With a total mileage goal of 26 for last week, I only ran 18. But those 18 miles I did run were gobbled up like candy, and I had tons of energy still in my legs! I started early in the week with a couple of short runs and enjoyed my first ever 8 mile “Laps of Eternity” run here at the farm. That is a heckuva lot of repetition, you guys. 32 times around the rectangular sandy back field. Even the llamas got bored of watching me. But I have to say it felt wonderful. I was on cloud nine after that run! My plan then was to round out the week with a 14 mile run at Lake Draper with the South Oklahoma City running club and the Landrunners. I was super excited! The weather has been drop dead gorgeous. Our schedule was just right. I had the strength and energy to spare. Check, check, check.

Then everything changed and our weekend was nothing like what we had planned. Because a prayer was answered.

My girls were both at the farm for the entire weekend. Both of them, at the same time, from Friday evening until Sunday afternoon! This is such a big deal. If you are close friends of ours then you know how nervous, giddy, and deep down thankful I was.

My oldest daughter used to run cross country and is among other wonderful things a talented athlete, so I invited her to join me on the the long run. It turns out she prefers sprinting to long distance, though, and her back was hurt, so that would have been a silly risk to take. We all stayed home on Saturday and just enjoyed the farm in every possible way.

Then very early Sunday morning, per a bedtime agreement from the night before,  she and I crept out at sunrise and struck out for our first ever run together. She was sweet enough to pace slowly with her old mama for seven laps. As we ran I had to suppress every urge to warn her of slippery red rocks or fallen limbs, to grab her elbow when her head flew too close to a pine branch. She isn’t a baby anymore I kept having to repeat to myself. Hard habit to break, you know?

Anyway, after lap seven she popped out one ear-bud, smiled, and said with all manner of coolness, “I’m just gonna wrap this up!” And then she evaporated. I have no idea where she ran to, she was so fast. I think she was abducted by aliens, the way she just tore off the well beaten dirt path like quicksilver.

A natural sprinter, indeed. I ran one more mile while she fed the horses before church, and I could not stop smiling. It took several years, but we finally ran together. And that is more special to me than any practice run with strangers could ever be.

So my heart is brimming as I type this, even though my miles are lagging ever so slightly. I started this new week off strong, again, and have every reason to believe that my body is capable of doing whatever I ask it to do.

More importantly. I have every reason to believe that Love is powerful enough to answer every prayer, no matter how impossible it seems.

Keep running, friends. And never stop hoping and praying!

XOXOXOXO

 

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Flower Bulb Winner!

February 24, 2014

Wow you guys! I am so happy for my friend Dee and all the much deserved attention she has enjoyed with her first book’s Valentine’s Day release. Gardeners and readers from all over God’s green earth have been scrambling to enter the giveaway here and at the other spectacular blogs participating. More importantly, though, people are buying her smart, gorgeous book. I hope you are too! The 20-30 Something Guide to Gardening is easily the most beautiful and accessible gardening book on my heavily laden shelves. I LOVE it.

Well, it’s time to announce the Longfield Gardens tulip & daffodil bulb giveaway winner.

Drumroll…..

 

25 daffodil bulbs from Longfield Gardens
25 daffodil bulbs from Longfield Gardens
25 tulip bulbs from Longfield Gardens
25 tulip bulbs from Longfield Gardens

 

 

From upwards of 70 entries, all of which made my heart go pitter patter with the overflowing garden passion and general sparkling friendliness, the randomly chosen winner is…

Debbie S.!!

She added this comment:

I have a perennial garden and a small vegetable garden. I seem to grow a lot of different salvias. I love the variety and how hummingbirds flock to most of them.

Yay Debbie, congratulations!! I hope you will stay in touch with us here at the W and let us know how your gardens do this year. Maybe post pics to the Facebook page of how you incorporate the flower bulbs into your gardens!

That goes for all of you. I am so thrilled to have met so many wonderful new people through this fun event. I hope to get better acquainted with everybody and share lots of garden knowledge and encouragement this season. And just some laughs along the way. Be sure you find this book and enjoy it. It is a treasure.

Thank you Dee for this unique experience. Thank you Longfield Gardens for the generous prize. And thanks to all of you fine people for participating. I hope we stay in touch. Happy Gardening!

“I love spring anywhere, but if I could choose

 I would always greet it in the garden.”

~Ruth Stout

XOXOXOXO

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Friday 5 at the Farm: Signs of Spring

February 21, 2014

Wahoo, friends! I know it’s still February and lots can happen between now and our last average frost date, which is Tax Day, but the farm is showing so many signs of springtime. I can barely stand myself. So this week’s Friday 5 at the Farm is just a little springtime celebration. Perhaps a smidgen early, but still.

  1. Temperatures are soaring! Our house heater has been turned off most days, windows open. Fresh air is such a mood lifter.
  2. The rose vines and thornless blackberry vines are slowly trading their winter browns for an easy, mild, slightly naughty shade of green.
  3. The horses are beginning to shed. I mean, it could be from being brushed… but still.
  4. The buds on my saucer magnolia are fattening up  and getting fuzzier every day. Several are just threatening to crack apart, too, like little fortune-telling pistachios. This is exciting. And it makes me want to wear bright pink lipstick.
  5. The hens are not only laying eggs again, which is lovely in and of itself; they are also starting to venture out of the warm coop to lay them in weird little places out in the sun. And they are sitting on eggs with fierce devotion, too, suggesting a fresh batch of chicks soon to arrive. If I would only stop eating the eggs.
(via Pinterest) Here's my next craft project. Simply watercolors on dictionary pages. Pretty!
(via Pinterest) Here’s my next craft project. Simply watercolors on dictionary pages. Pretty!

 

So happy weekend, friends! Happy springtime vigil. Happy everything. Soak it up and show your appreciation for this beautiful, poetic, nourishing life. Every single Diem is worth Carpe-ing.

“You can cut all the flowers but

You cannot keep Spring from coming.”

~Pablo Neruda

XOXOXOXO

 

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Bison Smiles

February 19, 2014

Hello again, and welcome! What a WEEK we have enjoyed at the Lazy W! And there is much more goodness to come. I am feeling very blessed these days and very happily battery-charged in all areas of life. Really loving it.

Today I am answering Mama Kat’s call to share something that made me smile this week. In the midst of so much great stuff, LOTS of big and little things have made me smile, but I’ll just share a string of things that might make you smile too. Ready? It all has to do with our little buff. Our little bachelor bull bison named Chunk-Hi.

 

Chunk-Hi, about 2 1/2 years old here, luxuriating in his hay.
Chunk-Hi, about 2 1/2 years old here, luxuriating in his hay.

Chunk always makes me smile. He just does. He is spirited, affectionate, silly, gentle, tough, vulnerable, intelligent, greedy, and innocent. He loves to play peekaboo, allowing me to (just barely) cover each of his enormous blinking eyes with one of my hands. And he loves for Handsome to wrestle his horns. He will dance like a native for loud music or revved up V-8 engines. And he loves cookies, protein pellets, cookies, cookies, and hay, as the photo above shows, and cookies. I mean he LOVES hay. He flips for it, literally. As for the cookies, Chunk-Hi may or may not have bison diabetes. Is that a thing?

This week the weather in Oklahoma has been mercifully warm and easy. The animals all love it, Chunk especially. He wallows in the sand like there’s no tomorrow, and he naps like a champ. So I am frequently mesmerized by him and his pasture mates, watching them snooze or graze or just play around with each other. Below is a snapshot I took today of Chunk with his very best friend in the world, Dusty. Dusty is our girls’ little horse. Also a true-blue sweetie.

Chunk-Hi and Dusty, not an odd couple at all. They are best buds. A farmyard bromance.  Bruthas from othha muthas. I'll stop now, you get the idea.
Chunk-Hi and Dusty, not an odd couple at all. They are best buds. A farmyard bromance. BFF’s. Bruthas from othha muthas. I’ll stop now, you get the idea.

Today I was minding my own business, just enjoying the farm, when a friend of ours messaged me a joke you’ve probably seen before, in different incarnations.

hardee har har har... It's funny because it's true!
hardee har har har… It’s funny because it’s true!

Well, of course I laughed. Because these tense conversations have happened here on those sub-zero arctic nights.

“Do you think they’ll be warm enough?”

“Babe. They’re fine. They’re built for this.”

“But they’re so sad.”

But it’s warm now and we are no longer concerned for our pets (or livestock) being so cold they need to cuddle up on our Berber carpet.

This funny message brought back to my memory a story from when Chunk was a wee little guy.

My little baby Chunk! Those sweet, sweet ears! At about a year old he always looked like a Fozzy the Bear to me. With teeny tiny horns. If you don't know who Fozzy the bear is, you're too young to read this blog.
My little baby Chunk! Those sweet, sweet ears! At about a year old he always looked like a Fozzy the Bear to me. With teeny tiny horns. If you don’t know who Fozzy the bear is, you’re too young to read this blog.

Isn’t he one hundred percent precious??

Those narrow little hooves. Those eyes, always searching or blinking slowly or shying away from the sun. That skinny black ridge on his back, so soon to become a full blown bison hump. That wet, square, leathery nose.

I LOVE HIM SO DANG MUCH!!!

It makes me grit my teeth.

Well, one springtime afternoon right around the time this photo was taken, my youngest daughter and I were home alone. I had the doors and windows open as is customary on gorgeous, breezy days in Oklahoma. And several of the large animals were loose, just nibbling the verdant lawn and otherwise pretending to be people. Which is to say, not doing anything I told them to do. Chunk was generally included in the “large animal” category despite his diminutive stature.

I do not remember what triggered it, but all of a sudden Jess and I both realized that Chunk had stepped through the open front door, trip-trapped his way across the roughly tiled entryway, and was coming towards us as we worked on her homework and probably ate cookies.

Okay, now listen.

We were in exactly zero danger. Do you see this little guy? Admittedly, if this happened today with Chunk’s one million pounds of solid muscle and eight foot long pointed horns, I would be telling you a completely different story. But I want you to imagine his adorable little baby face awash in terror because his slick, pointed hooves could find no purchase on the shiny wood floors.

Okay I am pretending right now that my wood floors were shiny. But please just go with it.

And I am his mama! Since day two of his tender little life we have bottle fed him, and I have spent practically every day of his life feeding and playing with him. He trusts me!

Spring 2009/ Before everybody grew up! (We had 2 babies at first but sadly lost one almost immediately.)
Spring 2009. Before everybody grew up, daughters and buffalo alike. (We had 2 calves at first but sadly lost one almost immediately.) Also back when our front field was still lush and green. Bison wallow. They wallow so much.

So he stared at me and made these panicked  little mewing, bleating, grunting sounds, convinced I could somehow help him, but the harder he tried to stand upright the more precarious his situation became. Think… ice skating for the first time. In public. On a buttered rink.

And I couldn’t stop laughing. It’s a disease, I realize, this nervous laughter when things are going horribly wrong. Jess and I surrounded Chunk and did our best to guide him in a semi circle back toward the front door, where hopefully the rough tile would be a small help. He couldn’t calm down enough to be lifted, though he was still small enough, so air hugs had to do.

We successfully corralled him with air hugs out through the open front door and he let us cuddle and pet for a few minutes, both of us still laughing. Poor little guy.

At this point in the story, two of Handsome’s colleagues and also our friends, Bob and Trent, pulled a rental car up in the driveway. I think there was a business trip that day?  Anyway, Jess and I immediately exploded into full on story telling mode, simultaneously digesting what had just transpired.The men just stared at us, laughing awkwardly. Chunk was standing calmly on the sidewalk by then, so I am not sure either Bob or Trent believed us. For a while it bothered me that we had removed Chunk from the house so quickly, because it seemed like the sort of incident that requires photo documentation. But I was also really glad it happened when Jess was home so she and I could share that silly memory.

So there you have it. A smile while watching my now five year old bull eat his breakfast. Then a smile at a joke because I have indeed considered bringing the animals inside during a cold snap. And still more smiles to remember that time Chunk accidentally slipped into our living room. So many smiles today!

What has made you smile this week?

“You can lead a buffalo anywhere he wants to go.”

Slightly famous buffalo quote

XOXOXO

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Hi! I’m Marie. This is the Lazy W.

A hobby farming, book reading, coffee drinking, romance having, miles running girl in Oklahoma. Soaking up the particular beauty of every day. Blogging on the side. Welcome to the Lazy W!

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