Since Proverbs 31 starts off as advice given from a mother to her son, presumably Bathsheba to King Solomon, a man who would hold great influence in the world, I thought it would be fun to collect bits of advice some of my guy friends have received from their own sweet mommas. You will quickly see that not everyone took this assignment too seriously. But that’s okay; I appreciate every single submission greatly. Enjoy…
Brian: “When you’re eighteen, you’re outta here!” Ha!! Thanks, Brian.
Fairo: “Be good. And if you can’t be good, be safe.” I just love this. I can totally hear my Grandma Dunaway saying it to my Uncle Chris and me as suntanned, barefoot kids. And she might be laughing as we run outside to play in the wasp-filled barn and hide in the trees from angry cows. Thanks Fairo!
Brad: “Don’t kill your sister, because one day that might make you sad.” He claims this advice was often given during a regularly scheduled beat down session between him and his sister. That is a direct quote, folks. Thanks Brad!
Brandy: “Go to church and always put God first.” This is my husband’s foremost memory of advice from his Mom, but I can assure you she has taught him thousands of wonderful things, from money management to overall stewardship of your blessings, hard work, and charity. What’s beautiful is that the foundation of putting God first kind of covers it all. Oh, and she also taught him all about hot rods and street racing… Ahem…
Pete: “Don’t leave fingerprints on the coffee table.” Okay. Pete’s lovely wife Tracy submitted this on his behalf, and I just want to say that teaching good habits for a clean home might be a skill more future wives would appreciate. Very cool.
Greg: “Please don’t put that milk in your ear. It only goes in your mouth.” This is my nephew. He is flat out adorable. And two years old. Also, when his Mom and I chat on the phone he likes to yell constantly in the background, “Love you Rie!! Love you Rie!! Love you Rie!!” This is what my siblings called when when they were small and adorable, a long long long time ago (well, Gen still does), and I think it’s so funny that he picked it up naturally. Okay, watch that milk, Greg!! xoxo I love you too!!
Bruce: “Kill them with kindness.” This is advice given for dealing with jealousy or anger. I think it’s brilliant. Simple, age-old, and applicable to just about any relationship. Thanks to Bruce’s wife Serena for submitting this!
Doug: “If you want to see how a man will treat a woman, watch how he treats his mother.” Also, “Never hit a woman.” Have you guys ever heard this before, that a man will treat his wife the way he treats his mother? What are your thoughts?
Zane: “Don’t do anything you would be ashamed of or embarrassed to tell your future wife.” Ha!! This young man’s mom is my gorgeous, smart, and thoroughly lovable cousin Jen. I have spent a lot of energy in life pretending we were twin sisters, that’s how much I want to be like her. She’s giving you good advice, there, Zane!
Jon said that his sweet Mom gave him mostly practical advice: “Chew with your mouth closed, brush your teeth every night, and don’t eat your boogers.” I cannot help but wonder about the relationship between these three bits of wisdom… Thanks Jon!
And now, for a touch of the timeless, a few little scraps of wisdom from people we don’t know:
“When you teach your son, you teach your son’s son.” ~The Talmud
“I remember my mother’s prayers and they have always followed me. They have clung to me all my life.” ~Abraham Lincoln
“Giving your son a skill is better than giving him one thousand pieces of gold.” ~Chinese Proverb
“Let France have good mothers, and she will have good sons.” ~Napoleon Bonaparte
That last one slays me. How beautiful! To me, this speaks directly to the notion that nourishing our hearts first will inevitably result in an outpouring of health, love, and growth, in all areas of life. We need good sons! So ladies, be good mothers.
Thanks for reading, everyone! I hope you have time to share your mother-son advice or thoughts on any of these here. Have a wonderful Friday, and if you’re in Oklahoma bundle up. We’re getting excited for the first truly blustery weekend of the season.