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Marathon Monday: Harvey’s Story, part 2

April 15, 2014

Several days ago I posted the first in a series of three posts honoring my father in law
and his work as a first responder to the OKC Murrah Building Bombing in April, 1995.
I want to thank all of you for your kind responses, for sharing your own stories,
and for helping to observe this anniversary with the right spirit.
Following is part two. It is a bit more graphic and intense,
so please keep that in mind before you read.
I know for many Oklahomans this is still a fresh wound.
Much love to everyone.

THE MORGUE TEAM

  The morgue team was led by Dr. Jordan, a prominent and beloved member of the medical community. He insisted on a show of the utmost respect for every victim of the bombing, and in turn he won the respect of his team every step of the way.
Of the sixty people assembled plus another twenty military personnel manning the phones, Harvey and Judy were already friends with half a dozen. Many of the rest would become permanent connections for them, indelible marks on their life stories.
The morgue team’s initial task was to frame lists of people known to be in the Murrah building that morning, as well as lists of people who might have been there. Since the building hosted agencies like the Social Security Administration, the possibilities of different visitors were endless.

  Then the bodies started arriving. The team’s primary job quickly became positive identification of every victim. Dr. Jordan had set high standards, and every team member was vigilant. They identified people through detailed physical descriptions, fingerprints, dental records, and, when necessary, DNA.

  No one had ever before seen a disaster of this magnitude, and the pressure was immense. Eventually they saw a total of 168 dead. It is estimated that 20% of Oklahoma City was grieving the loss of at least one person. One in five people attended funeral services for loved ones killed in the bombing. Many people attended multiple services, and sometimes there were so many funerals overlapping that mourners had to make the impossible choice of which one to attend.
Harvey and Judy knew eight of the deceased personally, but they continued their gruesome and heartbreaking work. In the course of his duties, Harvey himself identified two of those eight lost loved ones.

  None of the work was easy, but everyone on the morgue team agreed that handling the lost babies was hardest. Dozens of infants and toddlers were seriously injured by the blast, and 19 were killed. The morgue team had the unfathomable burden of identifying each of these smallest Oklahomans.
  By about the seventh day, police officers began visiting homes of missing children to collect hair samples from tiny hairbrushes and fingerprints from sippy cups. Of course, the parents were unbelievably grieved.
Mourning families waited daily for news, but they were kept far away from the morgue and well out of view of the refrigerator trucks where the bodies were kept safe prior to identification. For years after that, Judy would grieve freshly every time she glimpsed such a refrigerator truck out in public.

  For the adults who would have had dental records available for comparison, Dr. Glass from the OU School of Dentistry orchestrated a team of first-year students to help with the work. Judy drove that same Hallpark patrol car all over the metro area collecting records and bringing them back to the team. Again, unprepared for such a task, a large percentage of these students ultimately chose not to pursue dentistry as a profession. They were not alone in their trauma: The regional American Red Cross lost 80% of its volunteer base following the shock of this tragedy.

  But that was all much later. While there was work still to be done, everyone stayed. In fact, during those awful weeks, Oklahoma received more volunteers ready to work than there was work to be done.

  Harvey would later recall one Oklahoma City dentist desperate to find ways he could help the recovery efforts. He ended up donating more than enough toothbrushes, toothpaste, mouthwash, and other oral hygiene supplies so the morgue workers could have some semblance of self care while they spent all their energy caring for others.

  This particular contribution would eventually lead to the only moment of levity Harvey and Judy would experience during these weeks. One bright afternoon, Judy was driving up to the site, nearing 8th and Lincoln, swishing her mouth with pure, undiluted Listerine donated by this dentist. It was so sharp and powerful that it choked her, and she swerved the patrol car severely, pulling off and stopping at the side of the road. Military personnel guarding the area recognized her and thought she was in distress, possibly shot. Instantly two humvees filled with armed guards sped over the curb and flanked the Hallpark patrol car. By now Judy had opened her driver side door and was coughing out the strong mouthwash, laughing hard. They all three surrendered to brief and bittersweet laughter.

SECURITY AND RESPECT

harvey's badges

  As head of Security, Harvey made several decisions. One of his first was to block all roads leading into the morgue area, which they accomplished with the help of military presence. Harvey also acquired X-ray machines to ensure that the many incoming packages were safe. Bomb scares were still on the forefront of everyone’s minds. Additionally, to control foot traffic in and out of the makeshift morgue, he implemented neck chains with photo ID badges and a strict sign-in/sign-out policy. Only approved team members were allowed past a certain point, and everyone answered to Dr. Jordan. Even other uniformed police officers and well meaning volunteers were turned away in order to preserve the security and integrity of the team’s sensitive work. Again, Oklahoma had more than enough generous volunteers. Love had saturated every single effort.

  Sensationalism and fanfare were foreign concepts here. The gravity of the situation was felt constantly by all team members. The morgue was a fiercely protected “No Camera Zone,” and on at least two separate occasions people trying to infiltrate the area to snap tabloid photos lost either their equipment or their jobs or both. Respect for those lost was paramount and violations were not tolerated. Fortunately, the vast majority of people agreed and cooperated with this sentiment. Whether native Oklahomans or volunteers from around the world, first responders were people finding needs to fill and putting Love into action.

  It was so much more than work for Harvey and Judy and their colleagues. With every positive identification, following the rigorous standards set forth by Dr. Jordan, the place quieted. Every time a victim was released to a funeral home, he or she left the morgue with perfect solemnity and affection. Reverence was shown at every turn, and the team members all stopped their work to stand and say goodbye. For fallen military or law enforcement personnel, strong, tender salutes were given. But everyone was important. Everyone was a fallen American.

  Several days into the grueling assignment, as victims started leaving the morgue for their final resting places, it was widely known that what our beautiful city had suffered was an act of terrorism.

Thank you for reading, friends. More of the story will come probably next week.
Please feel free to continue adding your own memories

or any words from your heart. And thank you so much for sharing this, Harvey.
xoxoxoxo

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Could You Pass a Citizenship Test?

April 13, 2014

This question has bothered me about myself for a while. Although I have always felt somewhat patriotic and have believed myself a reasonably knowledgeable person, I have fallen embarrassingly short in civic smarts more often than I would like to admit. Watching from the sidelines as people near us have worked and prepared to become citizens of these beloved United States, I’ve decided it’s high time to brush up.

Tiny T says, "I pity the fool who takes his citizenship and liberty for granted!" Preach it, T. Preach it.
Tiny T says, “I pity the fool who takes his citizenship and liberty for granted!” Preach it, T. Preach it.

Which camp are you in? Do you feel totally competent; or do you see some room for improvement? Do you even care?

If you have a minute or so, pop over to the Huffington Post site and breeze through eleven sample questions to see how to measure up. Just take a deep breath and click here. But that’s nothing compared to what we should know, right?

Grab a sheet of paper and a pencil. Because here is a list of 100 questions we should all be able to answer:

1.      What are the colors of our flag?
2.      How many stars are there in our flag?
3.      What color are the stars on our flag?
4.      What do the stars on the flag mean?
5.      How many stripes are there in the flag?
6.      What color are the stripes?
7.      What do the stripes on the flag mean?
8.      How many states are there in the union?
9.      What is the 4th of July?
10.     What is the date of Independence Day?
11.     Independence from whom?
12.     What country did we fight during the Revolutionary War?
13.     Who was the first President of the United States?
14.     Who is the President of the United States today?
15.     Who is the Vice-President of the United States today?
16.     Who elects the President of the United States?
17.     Who becomes President of the United States if the President should die?
18.     For how long do we elect the President?
19.     What is the Constitution?
20.     Can the Constitution be changed?
21.     What do we call a change to the Constitution?
22.     How many changes or amendments are there to the Constitution?
23.     How many branches are there in our government?
24.     What are the three branches of our government?
25.     What is the legislative branch of our government?
26.     Who makes the laws in the United States?
27.     What is Congress?
28.     What are the duties of Congress?
29.     Who elects Congress?
30.     How many senators are there in Congress?
31.     Can you name the two senators from your state?
32.     For how long do we elect each senator?
33.     How many representatives are there in Congress?
34.     For how long do we elect the representatives?
35.     What is the executive branch of our government?
36.     What is the judiciary branch of our government?
37.     What are the duties of the Supreme Court?
38.     What is the supreme law of the United States?
39.     What is the Bill of Rights?
40.     What is the capital of your state?
41.     Who is the current governor of your state?
42.     Who becomes President of the U.S.A. if the President and the Vice-President should die?
43.     Who is the chief justice of the Supreme Court?
44.     Can you name the thirteen original states?
45.     Who said, “Give me liberty or give me death”?
46.     Which countries were our enemies during World War II?
47.     What are the 49th and 50th states of the Union?
48.     How many terms can a President serve?
49.     Who was Martin Luther King, Jr.?
50.     Who is the head of your local government?
51.     According to the Constitution, a person must meet certain requirements in order to be eligible to become           President.  Name one of these requirements.
52.     Why are there 100 senators in the senate?
53.     Who selects the Supreme Court justices?
54.     How many Supreme Court justices are there?
55.     Why did the pilgrims come to America?
56.     What is the head executive of a state government called?
57.     What is the head executive of a city government called?
58.     What holiday was celebrated for the first time by the American colonists?
59.     Who was the main writer of the Declaration of Independence?
60.     When was the Declaration of Independence adopted?
61.     What is the basic belief of the Declaration of Independence?
62.     What is the national anthem of the United States?
63.     Who wrote “The Star-Spangled Banner”?
64.     Where does freedom of speech come from?
65.     What is the minimum voting age in the United States?
66.     Who signs bills into law?
67.     What is the highest court in the United States?
68.     Who was the President during the Civil War?
69.     What did the Emancipation Proclamation do?
70.     What special group advises the President?
71.     Which President is called the “father of our country”?
72.     What immigration and naturalization service form is used to apply to become a naturalized citizen?
73.     Who helped the pilgrims in America?
74.     What is the name of the ship that brought the pilgrims to America?
75.     What were the 13 original states of the United States called?
76.     Name 3 rights or freedoms guaranteed by the Bill of Rights?
77.     Who has the power to declare war?
78.     What kind of government does the United States have?
79.     Which President freed the slaves?
80.     In what year was the Constitution written?
81.     What are the first 10 amendments to the Constitution called?
82.     Name one purpose of the United Nations.
83.     Where does Congress meet?
84.     Whose rights are guaranteed by the Constitution and the Bill of Rights?
85.     What is the introduction to the Constitution called?
86.     Name one benefit of being a citizen of the United States.
87.     What is the most important right granted to U.S. citizens?
88.     What is the United States capitol?
89.     What is the White House?
90.     Where is the White House located?
91.     What is the name of the President’s official home?
92.     Name one right guaranteed by the First Amendment.
93.     Who is the commander-in-chief of the U.S. military?
94.     Which President was the first commander-in-chief of the U.S. military?
95.     In what month do we vote for the President?
96.     In what month is the new President inaugurated?
97.     How many times may a senator be re-elected?
98.     How many times may a congressman be re-elected?
99.     What are the 2 major political parties in the U.S. today?
100.    How many states are there in the United States?

Whew! Surely you did pretty well, because my friends and readers are all brilliant! But I bet there were at least a few questions there that gave you pause. Check back tomorrow or the next day and I will post the correct answers. Better yet, get your friends or office mates to play along. Let’s make sure we all are hob-nobbing with informed citizens, mmkay?

I am so thankful to have been born here, and I am no longer willing to take that for granted.

Give me liberty or give me death.
~Who said that again?
XOXOXOXO

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Harvey’s Story, part 1

April 11, 2014

 The 19th anniversary of the Oklahoma City Murrah Building bombing is fast approaching.
Handsome’s parents Harvey and Judy Wreath were both first responders to this tragedy,
and over these past several days Harvey has been gracious to sit and discuss with me
more of his memories and details from those weeks, many of which I had never heard before.
He also visited the Memorial Museum with Handsome and me,
which was a such a memorable experience.
Internalizing all of this history has made me want to run the marathon even more.

Following is the first in a series of three installments telling his and Judy’s story.

Harvey Wreath 1995
Harvey Wreath 1995

A DAY LIKE ANY OTHER

Early on the morning of April 19, 1995, Harvey was already hard at work at his auto body shop in Moore, about half an hour south of downtown Oklahoma City. The weather was calm and warm, the skies bright. Absorbed in repairing the fender, door, and front bumper of a Chevrolet pick up, Harvey heard an unbelievable boom then felt heavy vibrations. He knew immediately it was a significant explosion and wondered if it could be an oil tank. He stepped outside and saw dark, heavy smoke gulping into the blue Oklahoma sky.

Several minutes later, at 9:15 a.m., Harvey’s police receiver reported a large explosion at the Murrah Building in downtown Oklahoma City. The operator was requesting all officers for help. They were bracing for the possibility of something more. No one seemed to know what was happening.

At this time, in addition to running his auto body shop, Harvey was Police Chief of the town of Hallpark, Oklahoma. His wife Judy was his right arm in every part of life and also served as his police Sergeant. On duty that April morning, Judy heard the same radio calls for help and immediately brought her husband his police uniform. Together they drove in their township’s only patrol car north to Oklahoma City. They prayed together every mile of that drive and in minutes arrived at the gaping, shredded building now veiled in angry black smoke.

CHAOS & FIRST RESPONDERS, DAY ONE

By now Harvey knew it was something far worse than any gas explosion. Upon seeing the enormous wound on the front of the familiar building, he knew without a doubt that it had been a bomb. Harvey and Judy heard layers of horrified screams. They knew people were still trapped. The scene was absolute chaos.

On the north side of the block, Harvey and Judy found a gathering of police cars and, in uniform themselves, rushed to offer their help. Their first task was to keep people away from the building, but crowd control on this morning was far from easy. The people trying to get through the barrier were not yet spectators or tabloid photographers; they were downtown office workers searching for colleagues, friends, and spouses. They were parents and grandparents frantic to lay trembling hands on their babies who had just been dropped off at daycare in the building now laid to waste. Their job of crowd control was made increasingly difficult by the thick, gagging smoke and then by subsequent bomb scares. There was so much screaming.

By evening, the area at Sixth Street was crawling with military personnel, law enforcement, and scores of heavy equipment operators. Martial Law had been enacted but so far was a formality because everyone was already working together. Somewhere deep in the belly of this horrible scene, this fallout of evil not yet understood, a seed of hope was already germinating. Oklahoma was already responding to trauma with intense love and unflinching willingness to reach out, to work together.

True to form for springtime in Oklahoma, heavy thunderstorms rolled in around 8:30 p.m. The weather did not slow the rescue efforts. By 10:40 p.m. every survivor had been brought out of the cruel debris.

Harvey and Judy stayed on site until 9 p.m. that first night then drove home, stunned and exhausted. They had planned to return to the same job the next morning, but at 11 p.m. a phone call came from their friends at the Medical Examiner’s Office. Harvey and Judy were being asked to join a team of people to work in the temporary morgue. Additionally, Harvey was needed as head of Security for the team. They said yes without hesitation, just as they had done fourteen hours earlier.

Neither of them slept well that night. They rose the next morning at 7 a.m. and reported for sixteen hours of unprecedented work and sacrifice, the first of nineteen consecutive days that would change them forever.

 

Thank you for reading!
Harvey appreciates you reading, too,
and gaining a deeper understanding
of what Oklahoma experienced that April.
Please continue to check in for more installments.
XOXOXO

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Friday 5 at the Farm: Accidental Collecting

April 11, 2014

You guys. I have some pretty serious posts in draft, being edited by my ten-four-good-buddy M and polished by Love because it is sensitive material.

But today is also Friday. Handsome and I have worked ourselves down to the marrow this week and have one more day of such exertion on the books before launching a drop-dead gorgeous Oklahoma weekend and some equally intense romancing.

So before those serious posts come your way, how about a quick Friday 5? Here are five accidental collections we have made at the farm.

  1. Rust old milk cans
  2. Heavy cotton, mid-century tablecloths
  3. Books
  4. Lawn furniture that does not match but is awesome
  5. Llamas

 

rom diddly

llama romance

skinny dulcie

llamas guarding honey

 

And you know what else? I have a feeling we will soon be adding a fourth. Place your bets here. Again. Just like last spring.

What have you accidentally collected?

Work hard today, friends. And please have yourself an amazing weekend! Tune in soon for stories from my father in law about the Oklahoma City Bombing, the reason behind running the marathon.

“Well done is better than well said.”
~Benjamin Franklin
XOXOXOXO

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Red Bud Season

April 9, 2014

There’s a paved road near our farm where the red bud trees stand tall on both sides, intermingling with live oaks, maples, sand plums, and cedars. They are all so old and strong that they interlace their branches over the road almost enough to form a true canopy. The red buds are blooming right now, that shade of purplish pink that is all at once both hot and cool. If you are lucky enough to drive this road early in the morning, then you get to see the eastern sunlight slicing through those flowering branches in great, shimmering planes of color. Everything is washed pastel for a while, even the asphalt, and it is all so beautiful you can almost forget about thickening traffic patterns and urban sprawl. This beauty is intense, and it is equally fleeting. Soon the tissue explosions will give way to green leaves, a new season of beauty in its own right.

 

Oklahoma state tree, the red bud.
Oklahoma state tree, the red bud.

 

No matter how many plans I make, they seem to change; and the new plans tend to be even better than what I had in mind. No matter how much I celebrate the details and beauty of life, I am constantly surprised by how good life can be. Nearly every day something has been happening here to prove to me that not only are things “for the best;” but they are amazing. Brief seasons of beauty surprise us, nourish us, then bow out gracefully for the next act.

Early yesterday morning, after driving through the pastel tunnel near our farm,  I had the chance to see my youngest daughter twirl around and squeal tenderly, celebrating her plans for prom this weekend. I got to see the glow in her young cheeks and the sparkle in her pretty brown eyes, and I got to feel the simplicity and warmth of her hugs. She is as much a young woman now as she has ever been my little girl, and it is the most amazing feeling to see this transformation. I am so thankful for it.

Later in the day I went downtown with Handsome and his sweet Dad to visit the Oklahoma City Memorial Museum. I had never been in all these years, and visiting with these men who are so special to me was an unforgettable experience. I had been scraping hard lately to maintain my attitude for the upcoming marathon, and yesterday changed everything. After internalizing what the first responders endured, I now want to run this race more than ever. If they can to do that work for nineteen days straight, then I can certainly run for four hours to honor them.

After that I bought our groceries for the week and was thankful all over again that we are able to eat so well. I felt deeply grateful for our health, too. The farm was happy and silly when Handsome and I both got home in the afternoon, and we enjoyed the baby chicks for a long time. I cooked dinner and shrugged off little projects I thought were so important, instead spending the evening with my husband, my best friend. I had horrible nightmares overnight, but he woke me up and held me close.

I don’t know what I’m trying to say here except that Love drenched every minute of yesterday, just as it does every day if we will only notice. The red buds are blooming and life is good.

 

XOXOXOXO

 

 

 

 

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