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You are One of Them (book review)

March 1, 2014

This month our famous little Oklahoma Book Club, Dinner Club With a Reading Problem, devoured a novel by young American female author Elliott Holt. You are One of Them was just published last year and is the author’s fiction debut. I LOVED it. I read it in 24 hours, gleaned a ton of understanding as well as new curiosity, and was perfectly satisfied with the ending. THAT is a fabulous reading experience!

You are One of Them by Elliott Holt
You are One of Them by Elliott Holt

 

This novel is almost a bit of historical fiction, following the political and cultural framework of the United States and the Soviet Union from the 1970s to present day. So I loved it for that reason. But it is also a lusciously insightful story of a girl who became a woman and navigated complex female bonds in the same decades I did. Do you know how few books are out there that detail exactly the things I treasured about my girlhood friendships? Not many. I loved it for that reason, too. As if all of that’s not enough, Holt’s storytelling and prose are just as strong and seductive as you’d hope for in a book you read in the final cold days of winter.  The story, after all, takes place in large part in the frozen, daunting landscape of Mother Russia.

There’s something painfully honest about winter: the skeletal trees, the brutal repetition of the cold. There are no empty promises, no hazy humid hopes. It’s reality, lonely and stark.

Side Note: Book club found it really nifty that we accidentally read a novel set in Russia during the Sochi Olympics. Total accident. Very cool.

While the story may be touted as one family’s ground-level experience of the Cold War years, and it certainly is that, I would also describe it as being every bit as much a telling of how a broken little girl becomes a strong, capable woman. I feel like Holt almost uses the Cold War and its risky, duplicitous complexities as a metaphor for how women and girls relate to each other. These can be the most dangerous relationships in life, right? I can totally hear you nodding your head dramatically right now.

At school I learned to catch my sorrow in my throat and then stick my head into my locker and let the tears slide down my cheeks without making any vibration at all.

As I read, I rooted for one thing to happen or another, and I slowly realized that similar bursts of espionage are at play in my own life. The pacifist in me had to admit that I have been resisting peace on some fronts for too long. Not only that; I have also been stubborn in my own sense of rightness. For far too long.

I have come to believe that forgiveness is the key to survival. It does no good to see everything as a struggle between opposing factions. Few things are that simple.

Right?

I so enjoyed this book that I hope you will track it down, read it, and let me know what you think.

  • What did you think of the friendship with Jenny?
  • What about the divorce and the estrangement from her father?
  • What about her mother’s fearfulness and distant love?
  • Tell me what you think of the ending!!

Dinner Club With a Reading problem met on Thursday night and  such a great time! I LOVE these girls. For the most part we all agreed that You are One of Them was a good book. The female bonds were interesting and believable. We all agreed the ending was a relief, though I won’t spoil that for you. We also agreed that we never ever wish to visit Russia. Was this the author’s intention? It’s hard to guess, because apparently she worked as a journalist in Russia, much like one of the characters in her book. Interesting.

I give this breakout novel by Elliott Holt 5 stars. I hope you track it down and give it a few days of quietude then let me know what you think.

Happy reading!

“I was tired of straight jacketing my emotions.”

~Elliott Holt

XOXOXO 

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31 Days of Serving my Husband, a review

February 27, 2014

Hello friends! Today I am so happy to be sharing with you a brand  new devotional on marriage, one that inspires and encourages.

31 Days of Serving my Husband: the Devotional by Ashley, Domestic Fashionista
31 Days of Serving my Husband: the Devotional by Ashley, Domestic Fashionista

 

This is Ashley with her husband Brent. Aren’t they adorable? Ashley writes a bright, faith filled, loving blog called Domestic Fashionista and has captured my imagination in so many ways over the months I’ve read her sweet stuff. Her marriage devotional is just another example of how she pours out her heart and offers humility, encouragement, and scriptural framework for her ideas. She strikes the loveliest balance between instruction and very personal exchange, and she stays centered on Love. I so enjoy her warm, effervescent voice.

In just 31 different little chapters, originally a 31 day blog series, Ashley explores opportunities for growth in your marriage and shares how she has faced the same. She includes scriptures with each premise but never gets preachy. And at the end of each chapter, she asks simple, pointed questions that really stimulated my imagination. The questions are like little examinations of conscience, little challenges to “up your game” as wife.

This is actually one of the most unique and beautiful parts of the book: the notion that a better marriage can be built with personal accountability. Assessing what I can do more, better, different, or less rather than focusing on what my husband is or is not doing. And while it is written by a woman and for women, every bit of it could be enjoyed by a man and applied to the husband’s sensibility.

A quick note on that difference, which Ashley addresses gently and with great stillness of spirit: Modern feminism is a complex and fascinating topic. And the word serve has gathered lots of negative connotations in our society. It has somehow become synonymous with martyrdom and subjugation instead of love and joyful fulfillment. If you have a bitter taste in your mouth with this topic, I warmly encourage you to read Ashley’s full devotional, particularly Day 5. She is a young woman, college educated, and freely choosing her lifestyle. She debunks the ideas that marital service equals slavery… just be exuding so much joy! And she points time and again to motive and Love, not score keeping or obligation. It’s really beautiful.

His masculinity brings out my femininity, and my femininity brings out his masculinity.

Do you have five minutes to spend each day for a month, investing a little extra thought and intention into your marriage? I bet you do. And I believe that making those small, intentional investments will yield more than you can imagine. More satisfaction. More mutual appreciation. More joy. More rest. More trust. Check out Ashley’s devotional. Click and purchase it right here and start soaking up her inspiration. Then check back in here and let me know what you tried! 

Thanks for writing this, Ashley! I appreciate your sweet insights and efforts to communicate your heart. I know this ventures into delicate territory these days, and I hope that you have enjoyed lots of peace after the writing.

“When I am well, we are well.”

~Ashley Urke

XOXOXOXO

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Marathon Monday: a Happy Detour

February 25, 2014

Happy Marathon Monday! How are you? I have a quick running update (more for my own records) and some amazing news. Some encouragement for you to never stop praying for things that matter.

I finished Hal Higdon training week 8 with mixed feelings. With a total mileage goal of 26 for last week, I only ran 18. But those 18 miles I did run were gobbled up like candy, and I had tons of energy still in my legs! I started early in the week with a couple of short runs and enjoyed my first ever 8 mile “Laps of Eternity” run here at the farm. That is a heckuva lot of repetition, you guys. 32 times around the rectangular sandy back field. Even the llamas got bored of watching me. But I have to say it felt wonderful. I was on cloud nine after that run! My plan then was to round out the week with a 14 mile run at Lake Draper with the South Oklahoma City running club and the Landrunners. I was super excited! The weather has been drop dead gorgeous. Our schedule was just right. I had the strength and energy to spare. Check, check, check.

Then everything changed and our weekend was nothing like what we had planned. Because a prayer was answered.

My girls were both at the farm for the entire weekend. Both of them, at the same time, from Friday evening until Sunday afternoon! This is such a big deal. If you are close friends of ours then you know how nervous, giddy, and deep down thankful I was.

My oldest daughter used to run cross country and is among other wonderful things a talented athlete, so I invited her to join me on the the long run. It turns out she prefers sprinting to long distance, though, and her back was hurt, so that would have been a silly risk to take. We all stayed home on Saturday and just enjoyed the farm in every possible way.

Then very early Sunday morning, per a bedtime agreement from the night before,  she and I crept out at sunrise and struck out for our first ever run together. She was sweet enough to pace slowly with her old mama for seven laps. As we ran I had to suppress every urge to warn her of slippery red rocks or fallen limbs, to grab her elbow when her head flew too close to a pine branch. She isn’t a baby anymore I kept having to repeat to myself. Hard habit to break, you know?

Anyway, after lap seven she popped out one ear-bud, smiled, and said with all manner of coolness, “I’m just gonna wrap this up!” And then she evaporated. I have no idea where she ran to, she was so fast. I think she was abducted by aliens, the way she just tore off the well beaten dirt path like quicksilver.

A natural sprinter, indeed. I ran one more mile while she fed the horses before church, and I could not stop smiling. It took several years, but we finally ran together. And that is more special to me than any practice run with strangers could ever be.

So my heart is brimming as I type this, even though my miles are lagging ever so slightly. I started this new week off strong, again, and have every reason to believe that my body is capable of doing whatever I ask it to do.

More importantly. I have every reason to believe that Love is powerful enough to answer every prayer, no matter how impossible it seems.

Keep running, friends. And never stop hoping and praying!

XOXOXOXO

 

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Book Review & Giveaway: The 20-30 Something Guide to Gardening

February 16, 2014

Hello friends! And a double hello for all gardening friends visiting on this gorgeous springlike weekend in Oklahoma. I have a lovely surprise for you, and I hope you’ll help spread the word.

Dee Nash, a sweet, smart garden writer and friend from right here in our beautiful home state has published her first gardening book which is every bit as lovely as she is. And, because my luck knows no end, I have been invited to share it with you. 

 Congratulations, Dee! xoxo

The 20-30 Something Garden Guide by Dee Nash
The 20-30 Something Garden Guide by Dee Nash

 

Not only do I get to introduce this book to you, but I also get to give one lucky reader a fabulous garden prize, courtesy of Longfield Gardens! I’m not alone, either. The (Not Always) Lazy W, incredibly, is part of a whole group of beautiful blogs gathered to offer Dee our support. Each one is giving away a different amazing prize. (Scroll to the bottom for a complete list. They are all worth visiting and following!)

You will remember Dee from last summer when she visited the farm and let me interview her about all kinds of great things.  She shared with me about her life, loves, garden experiences, dreams, and plans. She and her husband Bill have grown a truly beautiful life together, the garden being only a part.

Dee snapped a few photos of me in my own garden, too, and just flat out inspired me in every way.  I so enjoyed that day and over the few short years knowing Dee have learned so much.

 

I was so nervous for an accomplished writer and gardener like Dee to see my space, but she had nothing but encouragement to offer. xoxo
I was super nervous for an accomplished writer and gardener like Dee to see my amateur space, but she had only happy encouragement to offer. xoxo

 

The geese made a noisy appearance that day as we chatted outside, and Dee captured this moment.
The geese made a noisy appearance that day as we chatted outside, and Dee captured this moment.

 

Dee gets it when a person waxes poetic over home-grown vegetables or flushes about which perennials are best suited to Oklahoma. In fact, after our interview hours at the farm that day, she and I visited a local tree plantation and explored for another hour or so.  She squealed over citrus trees and crepe myrtles like a new mother picking out ruffled baby clothes. To match her contagious passion, Dee is extremely knowledgeable and eager to share her knowledge. Are you following her blog? You really should. You can also find her on Facebook under that blog’s name as well right here as under the new book’s title. She posts fabulous growing ideas nearly every day, and she is wonderful about answering gardening questions.

Now her first book is being released. The 20-30 Something Guide to Gardening. You can pre-order it on Amazon and I hope you do. I have been gifted a copy and am in love.

Dee’s book is aimed at young adults with an interest in growing their own food and flowers but perhaps also with a knowledge gap.  She inspires and informs with page after page of easy but smart text and short, fun lists, all fully illustrated with her own drop-dead-gorgeous photos. I felt ahead of time that her book would be beautiful, but when I first saw the finished product I was floored.

As you thumb through it, you will feel your gardening energies bubble up to the surface just begging to be released onto the nearest expanse of dirt. She explains things so well that your fears dissolve into possibility. I really wish I had read this book when I was digging my first garden, and I intend to stockpile several copies to distribute to young people in my life.

 

Fall vegetables being transplanted.
Fall vegetables being transplanted into bare spots in Dee’s summer garden.

 

Check out this proud, colorful sunflower in her vegetable garden. Dee emphasises the use of edibles as ornamentals and the use of flowers in the edible garden, too. She is big on promoting the  health of natural pollinators.
Check out this proud, colorful sunflower in her vegetable garden. Dee emphasizes the use of edibles as ornamentals and the use of flowers in the edible garden, too. She is big on promoting the health of natural pollinators.

 

This bee is collecting valuable pollen from a cucumber bloom. Guess what? Dee is considering the leap into backyard beekeeping with me. xoxo
Speaking of pollinators, this bee is busy collecting valuable pollen from a cucumber bloom. Guess what? Dee is considering the leap into backyard beekeeping with me. xoxo

I really cannot say enough about how much I appreciate my friendship with this woman. A little smidgen of Oklahoma luck brought us together as bloggers, and I look forward to knowing her and learning from her for a long time. Please check out her book and her blog. Please dig a garden and grow your own stuff. It’s just the way to do things.

Now let’s have a giveaway, shall we?

The prizes available right here at the Lazy W are just lovely. I want them myself! Big thank you owed to Longfield Gardens, you can win 25 daffodil bulbs and 25 tulip bulbs, a grand total of 50 high quality, colorful flowering bulbs for your garden! Remember, you can plant these pretty things in a million ways, maybe in a border and maybe in your edible garden. Read Dee’s book for suggestions. ; )

25 daffodil bulbs from Longfield Gardens
25 daffodil bulbs from Longfield Gardens

(I’m so jealous of whoever wins this!)

25 tulip bulbs from Longfield Gardens
25 tulip bulbs from Longfield Gardens

 

  • Comment here, telling me what you grow or what you want to grow.
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  • Follow me on Twitter (@thelazyw) and tell me howdy.
  • Tweet about this giveaway and let me know you did.
  • Share this giveaway on Facebook and let me know you did.
  • “Like” this blog on Facebook and say howdy.
  • “Like” Dee’s blog on Facebook and let me know you did.
  • Visit as many of the other fabulous bloggers also participating and share in their giveaway fun, too. Dee keeps really good company! I am humbled to be included.
  • The giveaway is open right now and all week, right up until next Sunday, February 23rd.
  • Check back in anytime and watch for the winner to be announced on Monday, February 24.
  • This giveaway is limited to the United States, for shipping reasons only.

Enter as often as you please. I am so excited for one of you to get your hands on these flower bulbs and for ALL of you to get your hands on this book! I already love mine.

Now, before you go… Remember to spend a few minutes visiting each of these wonderful ladies. You can glean something different from each of them and WIN something different, too:

  1. Shawna Coronado website — gift certificate to High Country Gardens for a Summer Dreams Garden.
  2. Whitney Curtis at the Curtis Casa — David Austin Rose, ‘Princess Alexandra of Kent’ and Authentic Haven Brand Moo Poo Tea.
  3. Colleen Dieter at Red Wheelbarrow Plants — Garden Girl shorts and Fiskars PowerGear 18” loppers.
  4. Robin Haglund at Garden Mentors — Buckaroo Worm Castings, a hula planter and Empire Soil Builder, from Sanctuary Soil.
  5. Rachel Hough at The Domestic Artiste — Fiskars Tools, two sets of loppers, one is the PowerGear Lopper 32” and the other Power-Lever 28”.
  6. Niki Jabbour at Niki Jabbour, The Year Round Veggie Gardener.
  7. Carmen Johnston at Carmen Johnston Gardens — Garden Girl pants with knee pads and a David Austin rose, ‘The Alnwick Rose’ catalog link for ordering bare root roses.
  8. Carol Michel at May Dreams Gardens — DeWit Tool kit and Botanical Interests Organic Heirloom Seed Bank Collection. 
  9. Pam Penick at Digging — Three small Bee Preservers, www.glassgardensnw.com.
  10. Jenny Peterson and J. Peterson Garden Design — SeedKeepers Deluxe seedkeeper and Burlap Girdle.
  11. Genevieve Schmidt at North Coast Gardening — Annie’s Annuals gift certificate and Keira Watering Cans.
  12. Marie Wreath at the (Not Always) Lazy W — Longfield Gardens tulips & daffs 

 

Aren’t those all great prizes?

Warmest congratulations, Dee! I am so happy for you. And I am so grateful for the incredible amount of passion and expertise you poured into this work. What will you write for us next?

Happy gardening!

XOXOXOXO

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Friday 5 at the Farm (Valentine’s Edition)

February 14, 2014

Happy Valentine’s Day!! It’s also Friday, so I thought for Friday 5 at the Farm I’d share five ways that Handsome and I infuse our home with romance. (And I will even keep it above board.)

We do romance here, okay? I mean, it has always been important to both of us. We are always looking for something fun together or something comforting, and I love it. And without meaning to sound to cliche, it is so true that the best ways to drum up and enjoy a romantic mood are often the simplest.

  • Environment Matters. Our mood thrives with a clean house, work done, lights low, and minimal fragrances except vanilla. Lots of twinkly white lights.

 

  • Cuddling with a great movie. Cell phones are turned off. All indoor animals are somehow made to be quiet and peaceful. (Sometimes that part is tricky.) For dinner on these nights, we often make nothing but homemade popcorn with obscene amounts of real butter. There are layers of heavy, fuzzy blankets involved, and there is much “xoxo.” What kinds of movies? Never heavy, serious dramas. We opt for comedies, action, or some other kind of fun. Because stress frowns and tears are not very romantic. Or sometimes we do the whole “binge-watching” thing and take in several episodes at once of a show we both love.
Life is always better when you're laughing. Always. Laughter heals.
Life is always better when you’re laughing. Always. Laughter heals.

 

  • Meals We Love. Food is a love language in which we are both fluent. When we have a little something special to celebrate or crave a dose of ooh la la, a beautiful meal is often in order. For Handsome, the menu almost always includes homemade Alfredo sauce. For me, it’s avocados. We don’t imbibe, but we will share an ice cold bottle of sparkling cider for fun. Other faves are chocolate covered strawberries and steak with all the trimmings. Homemade pizza. More popcorn. Sometimes I don’t even do the dishes till the next morning! That’s how crazy we get.

 

Cheesecake and chocolate covered strawberries from Valentine's Day 2013.
Cheesecake and chocolate covered strawberries from Valentine’s Day 2013.

 

  • Road trips. Of course we love big, elaborate vacations! But for a dose of simple romance we like to strike out on nearby roads and just explore. We have tons of made-up bingo games we play. We like all kinds of music for singing along. And we talk. Or don’t talk. We could talk or not talk for hours.  (Name that movie for bonus points!)

 

  • We own a massage table. So there you go.

 

Romulus and Seraphine within half an hour of first meeting. You might say... They hit it off.
Romulus and Seraphine within half an hour of first meeting. You might say… They hit it off.

 

Happy Valentine’s Day! I hope however you celebrate, and whoever is lucky enough to spend it with you, that you feel some simple romance. I hope you know it does’t have to be expensive or fancy to be really special. It just has to be genuinely you.

 

“Romance is the glamour which turns the dust of everyday life into a golden haze.”

~Elinor Glyn

XOXOXO

 

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