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going by feel

June 4, 2017

I had scribbled this down in my notebook a full week before it all clicked. Our friends Mickey and Kellie visited the farm on Memorial Day, and together with my sister Angela and brother Philip we all luxuriated in some pretty great conversation. As the golden hour grew purple and the honeybees were going to bed, we explored the vegetable garden together. I was pulling errant weeds, and Kellie asked how to tell the weeds from the plants. Our visit was nearing an end, so I just tried to answer briefly. You know that feeling when starting a brand new conversation would have been too much? But she and I had shared thoughtful vibrations about so many other things, how I wished to explore this with her that night!

Private note: This has both of my grandfathers wrapped up in its sentences: My paternal Grandpa Dunaway who was a sharp-witted, light-hearted writer and has always been my personal Will Rogers (also son to Papa Joe the slightly famous beekeeper), and my maternal Grandpa Rex, who you know by now was the world’s best gardening mentor and given to much puttering in exactly his own style.

bare-handed & going by feel

Assuming all basic safety from garter snakes, burrowing frogs, and other deadly creatures, the best way to pull weeds is bare-handed. After a brief re-acquaintance between the inner edge of the forefinger, the first pad of the thumb, and the exact dimensions of every upwardly mobile green thing in the garden, the task becomes commonplace, an easy old dance, even more familiar (and I will say more useful) than riding a bike.

The fuzzy, round barrel chest of a cucumber vine is easy to distinguish from the skinny weeds growing thick against it, though the weeds are also fuzzy. Another fuzzy-stemmed neighbor, the tomato plant (blunt and wounded thanks to a llama without borders) has a somewhat squared off base, and is woodier. Alpha and well rooted. Vastly different except for the green and the fuzz.

The gardener should be able to go at the task with eyes closed, flicking gingerly from one thread of life to the next, deciding which can stay and which should be plucked out. Just a swift, underhanded twist of that well informed forefinger, and the cooperating palm is filled with chlorophyll and potential energy, one tiny decision at a time.

If, in a fit of momentum, the gardener grazes too near a bed of arugula, crushing a few leaves or maybe even uprooting a thread like seedling or two, then the sharp, peppery fragrance will announce the misstep quickly. A friendly alarm to redirect, so that no more than a trace of food is lost. And even that bit of green will find its way to a happy chicken’s belly.

This is one of my favorite things about easy gardening moments. Pulling weeds bare handed and getting really up close and personal with every shape and texture, usually with my eyes closed.

And it points gently to so many Universal messages I have been receiving lately. Messages about being quiet, going about my work more privately, relaxing into the moment so much that I can keep moving with my eyes closed. Trust and steady movement, knowing that nothing is wasted. Believing that every detail in this complex life is beautiful and useful. Acknowledging that as different as I feel from people near me, we have some things in common.

Most of all, the message that it’s okay to operate by instinct once you are informed and practiced. That is exciting. 

I love you and miss you Grandpa Dunaway, I love you and miss you Grandpa Rex, and I love you too Kellie. I am so happy to know you better and better.

Go by feel and trust in Love
XOXOXOXO

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happy birthday week to meh!

June 2, 2017

This week we mark the third year that our little farm has been made so much sweeter with the addition of the world’s most magical llama.

The world’s most kissy-face llama. Who lacks a good sense of personal space.

The llama with his mama’s caramel brown fluff and his daddy’s eyelashes. Also his daddy’s distaste for horses. Also his daddy’s penchant for stealing garden produce.

For three years we have been cuddling, smooching, throat-caressing, and listening to the siren song of Meh, so named for the sound he made incessantly for the first two years of his life.

For three years our guests have laughingly endured Meh’s unwanted (but wonderful) advances, and we act like there’s nothing we can do to help. Ha.

When Klaus joined the party here, Meh was only a year old, so the two have grown up together and are best buddies. BFFs forever and ever, cross their hearts and please let’s go swimming now. Meh is the only animal on the farm who can play hard enough to satisfy Klaus without hurting him, and vice-versa. Our horses are known for kicking the lesser beings, not so much frolicking. Very disappointing for two playful boys.

We certainly owe Meh’s extreme touch-ability to Handsome. From day one, he held that baby and pet him, kissed his face and touched his legs, just like you would a colt. Meh lost his mama Seraphine too young, so this bond proved to be an extra blessing.

We love you, Meh. We love your liquid black eyes and those broomy lashes. We love your irregular spots and caramel-colored fluff, your pointed hooves and straight, usually wet-from-the-pond legs. Oh my gosh that velvety mouth and soft-whiskered chin.

We love how you boss the horses around but wait until the third position to eat. We love how you tolerate Klaus then beg for him to play when he is finally tired. We love your weird ambulance screaming sounds and sweet breath. We appreciate how you never spit on us! We do not appreciate how you eat the garden veggies, but your neck is so long and bendy, and you are so sweet otherwise, how can we ever be mad?

Keep on bouncing and loping and doing that swooping, underhanded roping you do with your body. Keep on napping excessively beneath the pine trees, having rubbed our landscaped trees down to bare sticks, chewing on probably very fine baby kale. You are worth it. We are so lucky to have you here.

You are the world’s best, most beautiful, truly magical and amazing llama.

And now you are three.

Happy Birthday
XOXOXOXO

 

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literary saturday may 27, 2017

May 27, 2017

Hello, and good Saturday morning to you! I am up extra early, caffienating and foam rolling before a little group run with friends in Midwest City. I have another running meet-up planned for early Sunday morning, too. Twice in one weekend? Who am I?

Besides starting two of our long-weekend days with running, my guy and I have some fun stuff coming up. Lots of sunshine-related fun stuff. Hopefully fewer wasp stings than we had yesterday (because can we all agree than one is enough). A sushi group date. A bonfire party. Some movie watching, to be sure. More sunshine. Less cerebral books than I have chosen lately.

The gardens are lush and making progress. I could be very happy spending several hours out there, “puttering” as my grandparents used to say, and adding another block of seed to the Three Sisters market garden.

In case you are up on Saturday morning with some great coffee and an appetite for reading, here are a few sweet spots on the internet:

This mini modern bohemian space in Philly, via Apartment Therapy. So nice. Plants like a jungle. Natural light. Colorful artwork. Did you see that tiny kitchen, but so neat and tidy? And the blue velvet sofa? And the interior brick wall? And the iron bracket, open shelving? It’s all a small version of my favorite aesthetics here in the farmhouse Apartment. And the smallness and coziness remind me so much of my daughter’s cabin in Colorado. Nice.

(( she has added a fridge & made some cool changes since this photo was taken ))

I am a sucker for research into and advice on how diet affects us, inside and out, physically and otherwise. This article at The Chalkboard shines some light on Omega fats and how they could impact our moods.

Nester shared a guest post by her friend Tsh titled, “When You Love to Travel & You Love Being at Home.” I thought it was written directly to me, ha. Then I read the article and was entranced by this woman’s life story. So fascinating! As different as our lives have been, she offers lots of relatable insight. I happened to read this close to some travels of our own, which was nice.

Travel is the one thing you can buy that makes you richer.

(( oh new orleans… xoxo ))

I love the Bon Appetit network of media. They pack both their website and magazine full of great ideas and gorgeous photography. And so upbeat! This article, though, especially got to me. The woman’s smile first caught my attention, then the title: “Transplanting Traditions Farm, a Place Where Refugees can Grow a Bit of Home.” Oh man. This is amazing. And inspiring. And humbling.

Have you noticed that inspiration almost always comes as a package deal with humility?

I have a still very long list of good reading to share, but the skies are brightening up a bit. Time to move on. Can we talk about S-Town, soon? Also a book called Lincoln in the Bardo? And Kite Runner? Okay thanks. I am a mess over them all.

Happy Saturday!! Tell me something you’ve been reading!

XOXOXOXO

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taco bueno giveaway plus some silliness of course

May 25, 2017

I don’t do many sponsored posts, but for Tex-Mex? Ummm… That’ll be a hard yes, por favor and gracias.

Taco Bueno has a new menu item available, and they are almost as excited for everyone to sample it as I was to do said sampling. Next to perfect coffee every morning, really sweet watermelon as often as possible during watermelon season, and homemade popcorn during movies, Tex-Mex is my favorite food. I mean… salads, really. But obviously there is so much overlap there! OB-viously.

(( grilled chicken rice bowl/ salad FOR THE WIN ))

Anyway, growing up in Oklahoma and traveling a lot to Texas has made my life pleasantly nourished by excellent Tex-Mex. I crave it constantly. Taco Bueno is my favorite fast-casual place to satisfy that craving, too.

So the nice folks at Taco Bueno sent me a generous gift card to try their new menu item. For our sampling fun I knew exactly who to invite: Brad & Mer, our Taco Tuesday power couple. We love being friends with them for lots of reasons, including the facts that they LOVE to eat and they LOVE to laugh and they LOVE to dress up for all sorts of fun occasions. A couple of years ago they showed up to a Cinco de Mayo double-dinner-date wearing the best costumes ever. Brad donned the biggest straw sombrero I have ever seen (outside of a birthday song attack), and Mer, well… See for yourself. I did not even have to ask her if she would wear the Taco again. It was just an understood.

On to the food! Taco Bueno already has a pretty legit fast-casual menu. Years ago I could inhale the “B.O.B..” which stood for “big ol’ burrito.” More recently my favorite menu item has been the grilled chicken taco salad bowl (it includes black beans and cilantro rice). When we eat in rather than take out, I thoroughly enjoy their salsa and relish bar. It almost always includes fresh pico de gallo, which is my jam. Pile it on!

The new menu item is big and designed to feed either a small crowd or one perpetually hungry runner (with possible crumbs left for her husband and costume-wearing buddies). It’s called the “Wholotta Box” and it is no joke.

What you get for just $10:

  • 2 large side orders of rice (moist!)
  • 2 large side orders of refried beans (made fresh in the store)
  • 4 bags of fresh tortilla chips with SUCH great salsa
  • Your choice of a mix of 12 items, tacos and/ or burritos

The four of us opted to mix it up between tacos and burritos, plus I ordered that salad you see above (so good!), we added an order of queso, and I think there were a few small items added on, too. We had way too much food. Everyone ate plenty and enjoyed every bite. We settled in at one of those long, high tables and laughed and laughed for about an hour.

A good time was had by all, and we left with food to spare. My husband kept saying, “All of this was only ten bucks?” The Wholatta Box is, indeed, only $10. That’s a pretty great deal, friends. I feel like mentioning that we noticed several people leaving the restaurant with their own Wholatta Boxes to go, and how nice it seemed to have all that food packaged neatly in pizza-style cardboard boxes. Great for carrying home, you know? Ours was served just as neatly but in Styrofoam boxes for eating in.

As if our fun with Brad and Mer wasn’t enough, Taco Bueno wants you to go try something delicious, too! Enter to win a $25 gift card then go feast.

I have no doubt that your delicious visit to Taco Bueno will be made even better by great service like what we enjoyed from Heather, the young woman pictured above. She was patient with our antics, friendly to the max, and even posed for photos at our childish insistence. When our order was ready, she called out “TACO!” and everyone laughed.

I mean, WE laughed. The other guests in the dining room who just wanted some food, man, looked around nervously. We heard someone stage-whisper, “That’s a real live taco!” Follow that train of thought at your own peril.

So enter to win a gift card! Comment below, and just for fun tell me your favorite Tex-Mex food. I will choose a winner at random on Tuesday, May 30th. TACO TUESDAY!

I hope you go try the Wholotta Box. Bonus points if you wear a taco costume like my friend does, literally every chance she gets.

XOXOXOXO

 

 

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endurance diet (book review)

May 23, 2017

Hey friends, happy Motivation/ Marathon Monday! This week I have an on-topic book for you to consider: The Endurance Diet by Matt Fitzgerald.

I’ve been lauding it on Facebook and Instagram for a few weeks, and my husband and friends have endured (get it?) my overflowing commentary since reading it. Thought it was time to begin laying out my thoughts.

Whether you are…

  • a long distance runner or other type of endurance athlete,
  • a curious exerciser who wants to finally figure out the nutrition part of the wellness puzzle,
  • an exhausted dieter who is pretty much DONE with diet culture,
  • or someone who lives with and loves such a person,

…you have a lot to gain from reading this slim book.  

First, let’s clarify that despite its title this book is not really a “diet book,” not in the traditional trendy fad/ quick weight loss/ make some money and sell some protein shakes kind of way. It’s all science and anthropology. Just a smart collection and analysis of best practices, eating habits that have coincidentally been working well for the world’s most successful endurance athletes. The author is a professional running coach and sports nutritionist and early on takes great pains to explain his research process. I groove this.

I stumbled onto The Endurance Diet by accident. During those weeks I was injured and taking a frustrated break from running, I listened to a podcast about dealing with and preventing injuries like mine, and the author happened to be the guest that day. He and the host just grabbed my attention. They dovetailed into a conversation about eating well to support the hard work of training, and how the elites do it all. I listened raptly, took notes between ironing my husband’s shirts, and once the book was mentioned, excitedly ordered it. Paperback, so I could write notes in it, because Know thyself, right? Ha.

As soon as the book arrived in our turquoise mailbox I cracked it open and could scarcely put it down until the final page. It was a pleasant, head-nodding read, largely I think because of the variety in each chapter. Fitzgerald mixes an array of instruction and bullet points, scientific explanation, personal anecdotes, and case studies about actual endurance athletes from all around the globe. That last part was so much fun. I got a big kick out of learning little bits abut other cultures’ food options, morning drink rituals, native grains and farming traditions, etcetera. Fascinating stuff. As I read the stories about other people’s experiences (injury and recovery, weight gain and how they fixed it, depletion versus vitality), deep thoughts and life lessons started clicking into place. I actually looked back at my old running journals and saw lots of similar observations. I noticed familiar lines about how certain modes of eating and exercising had made me feel and perform, both the good and the bad. It was all highly relatable.

OKC marathon 2015, aka “The Crying Games” because my body had revolted against my combination of dieting for weight loss and marathon training. Look at my sweet friends.

This is a point worth stressing: The fact that a below-average exerciser like me can glean the same wisdom offered to elite competitors is cool. Fitzgerald writes repeatedly that what is good for the highest level athlete is also good for most people’s general health and well being. These are not extreme-condition pieces of advice. I love that.

One of the most valuable themes throughout The Endurance Diet is the gentle pressing of a positive food ethos. The inside-out importance of seeing food as not only fuel (of course it is) but also pleasure and a means of connection (of course it is!). The key ingredient, he teaches, is trusting your own body and its complex regulating systems, which, once healed from misuse, will always be more reliable than any external plan or set of rules.

This articulation has been a long time coming for me. I don’t think I have had an eating disorder, not truly, but I have for years tortured my mind and body with negative thinking and unsustainable rules. If this book has had a single measurable benefit for me, it could simply be escape from calorie counting once and for all. I’ll keep you posted.

So. I am not pushing a “diet to lose weight” book onto my friends. Pinky promise. I am suggesting a book aimed at relearning the power of natural nutrition for endurance sports and the amazing (almost magical) ways our own bodies can regulate and heal themselves. I’m really excited to have found a simpler way to view this part of the big wellness puzzle and am hopeful that I can take another stab at long distance running without making those weird mistakes I made in 2015.

Okay. If you’re still with me, here are some specific takeaways:

The book offers habits, not rules, and just 5 of them:

  1. Eat everything.
  2. Eat quality.
  3. Eat carb-centered.
  4. Eat enough.
  5. Eat individually.

The book reinforces the myriad benefits of a good cardiovascular exercise program, whether you are a competitive athlete, an “age-grouper,” or a health-conscious human being:

  1. reduces body fat levels
  2. strengthens the heart
  3. improves circulation
  4. helps the body absorb and adapt to stress
  5. improves metabolic efficiency
  6. sharpens the nervous system
  7. boosts muscular fatigue resistance

The book identifies “endurance super foods,” though the author balks at such labels. The list of 22 items was accessible, too, plus affordable. I feel so grateful to naturally crave good-for-you nourishment!  Seventeen of the foods already make constant rotation here in our kitchen, and only one of these 22 foods was foreign to me, Teff.

  1. almonds
  2. bananas
  3. beets
  4. black beans
  5. brown rice
  6. cherries
  7. coffee
  8. corn
  9. eggs
  10. garlic
  11. olive oil
  12. peanut butter
  13. potatoes
  14. red wine
  15. salmon (or lox)
  16. spinach
  17. sweet potatoes
  18. tea
  19. Teff
  20. tomatoes
  21. tuna
  22. yogurt

Every part of the book makes a big deal out of individualizing your plan, listening to your own body daily, and honoring your actual daily needs, personal chemistry, happiness, and health above and beyond any external motivations. This is huge. I appreciate this so much, as it is something my husband and I (and recently some good friends) had already been discussing for months.

I mentioned the exciting possibility that this book may have nudged me once and for all away from calorie-counting. What the author offers as a stand-in might be of interest to you, though I actually feel relaxed and informed enough now to move forward without it: Fitzgerald separates foods into “high-quality” and “low-quality” and then into sub-categories for each. From there he offers a scoring system that helps you evaluate your daily eats then zero in on ways to make smart substitutions. He sells a phone app, if you’re interested, too. Each food group is worth up to 2 points depending on how often you eat it that day, and the maximum score is something like 28.

High-quality Foods:

  1. Vegetables
  2. Fruits
  3. Nuts, seeds, & oils
  4. Unprocessed meats & seafood
  5. Whole grains
  6. Dairy

Low-Quality Foods, largely made popular during the Industrial Era:

  1. Refined grains
  2. Sweets
  3. Processed meats
  4. Fried foods

(You know, if I continue sharing all of my many notes, this review will end up being longer than the book itself. Ha.)

If you are a long-distance runner, swimmer, or cyclist and this topic is interesting to you, I highly encourage you to read this book. A lot of the content seems like common sense, and Fitzgerald himself admits that; but it is gathered in a compelling way and is supported by all kinds of satisfying explanation.

I feel so refreshed to understand now precisely why certain efforts have failed. I feel excited to test out less dieting and more intuitive eating. Motivated to view my food as absorption for challenging workouts.

I will check back in after a month or so of this effort and let you know how I feel. In the midst of it all I am training for a trail half marathon, too, so I am really happy about the prospect of feeling great during these coming weeks. (Upcoming post on injury recovery and some little things that have helped!)

Gotta go. Thanks so much for sticking it out through a super long book review! If you read The Endurance Diet, let me know what you think!

“…but in the real world, the healthiest and fittest people,
including elite endurance athletes, follow a few basic rules of eating
and let the details take care of themselves.”

~Matt Fitzgerald
XOXOXOXO

 

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