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farm update: pacino wanders

January 15, 2015

Do you know about Bobby Pacino, our parrot? I’ve written about him before, surely. He is a blue and gold macaw, almost ten years old. And he is craaaaaaazyyyyyyy. Not that crazy, we do love him to a million feathery little pieces. He knows upwards of about 130 words and phrases. He is interactive and affectionate. He is really smart. He is extremely noisy and messy and demanding, and for all the animals we keep at the farm, he is the only one allowed indoors. But as self-centered as he can be, Pacino does loves us more than we give him credit for.

Well, friends, my Lazy W update this week is that we have a new development in our life as a parrot-centered family. Pacino has figured out how to depart from his open perch in the living room and just wander the house.

Here’s an example.

I was in the kitchen tonight cooking dinner, just minding my own business, with my laptop open in the adjacent dining room so I could write here and there. I heard a click-click-click… Then a little whispered “Hi mama,” and then… He peeked his smooth green and striped head around the corner. Way down on the floor. He climbed that chair you see and started working on stuff. He had parrot business, apparently.

Fine by me.

Bobby Pacino, sous chef and writing supervisor.
Bobby Pacino, sous chef and writing supervisor.

 

He’s been doing this for a little while now, maybe a week or so. Sometimes he waits until Handsome and I are settled in the green room watching a movie or something and he just eases his way down his metal perch (we can hear this activity) and click-click-clicks across the wood floor to our carpeted floor. He definitely thinks he’s sneaking up on us, so we allow the charade. Once he hits the carpet, he announces himself and we’re all one big parrot-centered family again. Then he climbs up the couch where I’m sitting and perches directly above me with his longest tail feathers either over my shoulder or in my face. It’s how he rolls.

 

My new accessory goes with every outfit. I just can't wear earrings.
My new accessory goes with every outfit. I just can’t wear earrings.

 

So this is how I’ve been spending the cozy evening hours lately. With a super fancy parrot stole. Honestly, it’s like having a toddler. After a long day in the house just Pacino and me, his high volume and general antics can be a little much. So thankfully Handsome helps keep him busy and does stuff like hold him upside down (this sort of hypnotizes him) and mostly makes me laugh about it all.

But I digress. That’s for another post.

The big headline here is that Pacino no longer calls from his perch and waits for us to come get him. He just goes where he wants to go. We’ve even heard him click-click-clicking around the kitchen while we’re upstairs. A few days ago Handsome walked downstairs early in the morning and surprised Pacino, who was walking around freely. Just walking. Pacino said “Uh oh,” and scuttled back to his perch.

Not even kidding you.

We’re not upset about this at all, because it means slightly less parrot screaming. We do have to baby proof things a little better, knowing that at any unsupervised moment Pacino could eat and/or destroy anything in sight. This has definitely added a new dimension of surprise to daily life.

And a much more feathery way to watch movies.

Do you have indoor pets? What have they done to surprise you lately?

He owns us.
Send help.
XOXOXOXO

 

 

 

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natural grocers luncheon

January 13, 2015

This past weekend I was fortunate enough to join about a dozen other bloggers as well as that many health professionals and wellness enthusiasts for a luncheon at Natural Grocers in Oklahoma City. We had the best time visiting with each other and discussing all things food and health and positive mindset. Kind of right up my alley, you know? The day was more than I had bargained for, in the best ways.

We enjoyed a sunlit meeting room and demonstration kitchen that is normally available for all kinds of FREE community education. FREE.
We enjoyed a sunlit meeting room and demonstration kitchen that is normally available for all kinds of FREE community education. FREE.

Besides enjoying the company of lovelies like Rose Marie, Dee, Jen, and Katie, long time blogging friends, I got to see Mari again! And I met tech-whiz Stephanie (who is working on her first e-book, yay!) and several other brand-new-to-me faces like Mae and Ashley. It’s so fun to connect in 3-D with people whose lives you follow digitally. And once again I experienced humilspiration, that feeling of buoyancy to be surrounded by such accomplished people who actually make you feel motivated instead of defeated. It’s awesome.

From left to right, we have Katie, Dee, me, Rose, Mari, Jen, Mae, Stephanie, & Ashley.
From left to right, we have Katie, Dee, me, Rose, Mari, Jen, Mae, Stephanie, & Ashley.

 

I stole a moment with Dee. Always nice to see her!! xoxo
I stole a moment with Dee. Always nice to see her!! xoxo

In addition to local bloggers, who kind of brought their own party atmosphere, the luncheon welcomed personal chefs, students from the school of metaphysics (possibly my new BFFs), acupuncturists, chiropractors, dietitians, wellness counselors, business developers, a popular local TV reporter, sustainability experts, career specialists for the food industry (Platt college), and more. It was quite an array of disciplines in that small room on Saturday! Plus one wanna-be hobby farmer. : )

I enjoyed the audience introduction time probably as much as the rest of the presentation. Several times my eyes sprouted tears just listening to people describe why they care so deeply about wellness and what they are doing about it. Life stories, man. That’s where it’s at.

These reusable shopping bags were brimming with treasure. We had coupons, a $10 gift card, class schedules, literature, and actual FOOD. Pistachios, sea salt, raw coconut, and more. So generous!
These reusable shopping bags were brimming with treasure. We had coupons, a $10 gift card, class schedules, literature, and actual FOOD. Pistachios, sea salt, raw coconut, and more. So generous!

NGL snack

 

Patty Moore, regional health coach fro Natural Grocers.
Patty Moore, regional health coach for Natural Grocers.

 

After a warm welcome with goodie bags and a really delicious yogurt cup, we sat down to hear Patty Moore describe the company’s unique history. Patty is their traveling regional health coach and clearly has a passion not just for wellness but for the philosophy and tradition of Natural Grocers. She spoke with affection about the company’s family roots, the founders, and their children who run things now. If anyone in the audience heard nothing else that day, they certainly heard that Natural Grocers cares strongly about process and method, about the overall well being of their employees as well as their customers and profits. Education is hugely important in their culture, as is the general concept of ancestral eating. Their aim really is to change people’s lives for the better.

I sat there thinking about all the ways my mom might benefit from shopping and lingering here, as she deals with the learning curves of diabetes. And I thought about my college-aged daughter who might benefit from working here, with so many programs and incentives available to the employees.

This is Jessica, a recent college grad who is working for Natural Grocers locally as a health coach. Her life passion has evolved into natural health care, and she is absolutely radiant in person.
This is Jessica, a recent college grad who is working for Natural Grocers locally as a health coach. Her life passion has evolved into natural health care, and she is absolutely radiant in person.

 

Then suddenly I was very hungry, and thank goodness they fed us this beautiful little brunch…

 

I need to be eating more veggies like this, at every meal.
I need to be eating more veggies like this, at every meal.

It was turkey bacon (thanks to Katie and Mr. Wonderful, who were fasting that day, I enjoyed three slices instead of one), vegetable latkes cooked in coconut oil, and a small frittata topped with tomato and kalmata olive tapenade. So good and simple!

We ate and ate and drank green tea and chatted about all the ways wellness is impacted by various life factors (not just the pills we take but the food we eat and the thoughts we think), and conversely all the ways your quality of life is determined by wellness. If you’ve been reading here at the Lazy W very long then you know why my eyes sprouted tears so often. This stuff is important! And I was deeply moved by the myriad ways people in our own beautiful state are working to help each other. I had the opportunity to mention the Junior Master Gardener Program, which is networking with the Oklahoma City Public School system to improve diet and education for our children. (I get to be part of that too! You’ll be hearing so much about this in 2015.) Natural Grocers is already partnering with several community gardens around the country, to encourage growing your own produce and sourcing products locally. I MEAN REALLY. This is so great.

Then at some point during the talks, a wild rabbit literally scampered past the big picture window to our left. The poetry was not lost on our group.

We also talked a lot about soul food, the emotional quality of the things we prepare and share an ingest. It was one hundred percent thrilling, not the average deprivation vernacular we are so used to enduring. Food, after all, is life. It’s literally energy. And it’s the quality of life we’re after, so it’s the quality of food and energy we need to seek. Natural Grocers has a focus on what they call a “wellness model” rather than a disease model. Does this sound familiar to you, along the lines of seeking joy and practicing gratitude, rather than fighting darkness constantly? My gosh. You see why I was rapt.

 

It was room full of passion and expertise. I felt really incredible to be there soaking it up.
It was room full of passion and expertise. I felt really incredible to be there soaking it up.

The long, gentle conversation yielded a reading list of about nine great-sounding books, too:

  • Rosemary Gladstar’s Medicinal Herbs: A Beginner’s Guide
  • Cows Save the Planet by Judith Schwartz and Gretel Ehrlich
  • The Story of the Human Body: Evolution, Health, and Disease by Daniel Lieberman
  • Wheat Belly by William Davis
  • plus several books by Adelle Davis, which were the inspiration for the company’s foundation
This pretty little painted ceramic finger bowl was a Christmas gift from Rose. Now it is filled with the sea salt from our fun event. Salt of the Earth, that's what my friends are. xoxo
This pretty little painted ceramic finger bowl was a Christmas gift from Rose. Now it is filled with the sea salt from our fun event. Salt of the Earth, that’s what my friends are. xoxo

Clearly the few hours I spent with these folks on Saturday were fruitful. I learned plenty, my passion for full-spectrum wellness was recognized in others, and I walked away feeling really excited and ready for the new gardening, running, and writing season. The world is so full of good people and good knowledge. How blessed we are to live the way we do!

I’ll write more soon, in little pieces, about what I gleaned that day. For now, thanks for joining me here again!! Have yourself a beautiful, healthy, loving day.

Everything is energy and all energy interacts.
XOXOXOXO

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marathon monday: time travel

January 12, 2015

Hello and happy Monday! Happy brand new everything. I admit to totally loving the beginning of the week. The fresh slate, the abundance of pent up energy from a weekend of cuddling and eating spaghetti. The running schedule which is so far unaltered. : )

Everything feels fresh and possible on Monday.

sun returns c

This week for Marathon Monday I’m indulging in an idea sparked by a Twitter conversation with Joe Jacobi. Joe is a new running acquaintance I’ve made thanks to the OKC Memorial Marathon connection. I’d been asking friends to time travel a bit, to think back to what recipes rocked their young adult worlds in terms of convenience, cost effectiveness, etc. What we wish we’d known then kinda stuff. (I’m working on a fun kitchen surprise for our oldest girl who is cooking for herself now.)

Well, Joe suggested that the same question is a totally valid line of thought for sports, too. What do we wish we’d known in our twenties?

Friends, before we start, can we just pause for a moment
to appreciate and wonder at the fact

that I am discussing sports metaphors and philosophies
with an Olympic gold medalist and professional motivational speaker?

Because, miracles are real and life is full of wonderful surprises!
Amen. 

This is such a great idea. Hindsight may seem to be of little value for the present moment, until we consider that what we notice when we look back crystallizes for us our values. We can see clearly what we would change if we could, what we are still celebrating so many years later, and what is worth either repeating or forgetting entirely. Also, who knows? Offering what wisdom we discover in hindsight could help someone else.

Since I didn’t start running until my late thirties, I probably missed my prime. More than likely I am already well past my quickest, leanest years. I’ll probably never win a race, but I don’t care because I still plan to finish gobs and gobs of them. Running has changed my mindset and my overall well being in so many ways, I really wish time travel could be real long enough to go have coffee with myself twenty years ago. I’d say these things:

Me (definitely a non runner here) with my little brother Phil and my firstborn beauty, who is now almost the age I was then. Let's have coffee and talk, Young Me! You're doing everything wrong. xoxo
Me (definitely a non runner here) with my little brother Phil and my firstborn beauty, who is now almost the age I was then. Let’s have coffee and talk, Young Me! You’re doing everything wrong. xoxo

 

Just run. Yes, it takes a little time, but you’ll just spend that time doing stupid stuff anyway, like watching Real World or listening to the Cranberries on loop. Plus, and pay close attention here, you need time alone more than you realize. It will do wonders for you emotionally and socially.

Please cancel that dumb Mademoiselle “gym” membership and buy some running shoes. Don’t worry about how you think you look in sweat pants. You’re about to look pretty great.

Your writing will improve, too. Run that tangled mess of words into a streamlined sentence. Keep doing it.

Run! If you want to lose that little bit of weight after carrying two beautiful babies, running and eating better is the answer. Don’t you dare get a prescription for Fen-Phen. Just don’t, even if your doctor says it’s awesome.

Yes, seriously, I know that the new Pearl Jam album is really great. Agreed! But how about you go listen to it while running instead of just laying there with your ancient Walkman getting a sunburn?

You’re going to lose your Grandma not long after your first baby is born. Please start running now so she can see you finish your first marathon. She could be your biggest fan and you know it. She is worried about the path you’re on.

Run with your little sister. She needs it too. You need to be friends right now, before it’s too late. Trust me.

with angela

 

I bet, and I really mean this, that if you take up running and yoga and just slightly better eating, you won’t feel such a need to spend a gazillion dollars at the tanning beds. And by the way? That’s about to be really out of style anyway. Stop now, okay? Be the first to say enough.

If you start running you will feel better about yourself almost immediately. And I know you don’t want to talk about this with anyone who loves you, so listen to me: You need to get out of that toxic relationship earlier, in an adult way, with less destruction to everyone. Running will help. You will walk away peacefully and everyone will be happy for many extra years.

Run out all that stress instead of spinning your wheels in depression. Run so you can get quiet and listen to that voice inside your 20 year old heart saying this is not right, I’m not happy. Get outside and run instead of over thinking everything and talking and talking and talking about it every day. Talking is overrated. Running is a goldmine of mental health that you need to unearth now.

I know it hurts your lungs a little at first, and you wheeze and feel huge and clumsy and weird. But that’s normal! Do it in little increments. Make a plan. Get some encouragement. Have fun! Do not judge the whole experience by this first awkward beginning. Please give yourself a chance, okay?

Life is about to be so great. It’s about to be so amazing, you’ll soon look around and not hardly believe your eyes. Running will only amplify it all.

 

Okay, friends. Coffee with my younger self was nice, although she actually ordered a Dr. Pepper and chili cheese french fries and didn’t think twice about it, which was weird for me. I hope she heeds some of this hindsight advice. Now tell me what you would tell your younger self about health and wellness. I’d really truly love to hear it. And if you are a twenty-something reader today? Take this advice from someone who would love to have made this happy discovery at your age: RUN.

XOXOXOXO

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introducing literary saturdays at the lazy w

January 10, 2015

Happy Saturday, friends. Happy end of the week or beginning of the week or however you think of this luscious collection of hours between Friday and Sunday.

Saturdays at the farm are among my favorite times in life, because they usually include sleeping a little bit late with Handsome, our legs braided together and his childhood Snoopy buried between us somewhere in the silky cotton sheets. Saturday means Hot Tub Summit with no time limit and less office talk than during the week (office talk never bugs me, but it’s really nice to see my husband escape it here and there). Saturday means the coffee tastes a little better and we get to watch an episode or two of Rifleman before starting whatever adventure we have planned. (Lately those adventures often include a pretty little nineteen year old young lady who has our hearts forever.) I love Saturdays at the dirt-and-hooves Lazy W.

peekaboo dusty c

Starting today, Saturdays here at the digital Lazy W will have a special purpose! They will be all about excellent reading material. Book reviews, stories about Dinner Club With a Reading Problem (our famous little Oklahoma book club), general chit chat about books and editing and writing, or maybe just a round up of great articles I’ve read the previous week. I’m really excited about this! Because reading is my favorite thing. Next to gardening and romance and coffee and running.

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 and warm weather………….

Today, this first such Literary Saturday? The latter of all those ideas. I’m sharing some articles I’ve read that were flat out great and I think you’d love them too. Take a read and let me know what you think, or share in the comments a link to something you’ve read this week you think the rest of us would enjoy!

How to Mine Diamonds by the incomparable Ann Voskamp. This is a long article and one that could have your eyes brimming with tears by the end, but it is so worth it. So worth the investment of time and emotion. Ann (we are on a first name basis, ha!) writes with such poetry and grit, just like in her book One Thousand Gifts. In How to Mine Diamonds she expresses my favorite concepts, “carpe diem” more thoroughly and with more spiritual exactness than I have ever read before. Give it part of your weekend, okay?

Kitchen Sparkle by Joy the Baker. If I have a girl crush on anyone on the internet right now, it’s Joy. And I’m not even sorry. Practically everything she writes, whether recipe or inspiration or just anecdote, is like infusing my day with lemon juice and rosemary. Which is what this particular article is all about. Plus? She lives in the French Quarter. So either I love her or hate her.

Becoming Antifragile by Nerd Fitness. I stumbled on this website recently and have had fun going through the archives. This article back from July is just wonderful. And it’s not just about physical stuff; it points to every good reason we really chase after the physical stuff. The article also includes a book recommendation, so Nerd Fitness gets Lazy W bonus points.

The Place Where You Are Cared For by Edie. xoxo I really love Edie. She always writes beautiful, spiritually enchanting stuff that I pretend like is just for me, because she seems to know exactly what people need to hear. This piece of hers from back in November is on a list of things I have saved because I glance at it frequently. It’s especially valuable to me right now as the farm is more and more becoming a landing spot for our firstborn. Words fail to impart the preciousness of this season, friends. And Edie’s memories help me stay centered. So go read this piece (it’s not too long) and enjoy the makeover she’s doing in her digital space. Really gorgeous!

Okay, there you have it! Literary Saturday, episode #1, complete. I hope you sample some of this here, and I really really hope you share something else worth reading. Sending you so much love from the Lazy W. Thanks for stopping in!!

“Either write something worth reading
or do something worth writing.”
~Benjamin Franklin
XOXOXOXO

 

 

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friday 5 at the farm: photos I didn’t take

January 9, 2015

I’m not alone, right? The best moments in your day seem to happen when neither a camera nor a smart phone is within reach? So in your excitement you try to tell people about it, but it never quite translates. Or you try to go back and reenact the magic but the magic has already dissolved.

This week especially, great stuff seemed to happen around me left and right and then never again. So for Friday 5 at the Farm today, I’m offering you five little scenes that deserve to be immortalized somewhere. On this blog in plain old words will have to do.

Chunk-Hi the Tire Flipper
In the front field are two massive, deeply treaded rubber tractor tires meant for nothing except the buffalo’s entertainment. A few months ago we actually swapped a broken down four-wheeler for them. Chunk-Hi loves these tractor tires almost as much as he once loved that broken down four-wheeler. He uses his thick, curved horns and dense bony forehead to pluck these seemingly weightless toys out of the sand and throw them in great big loops into the Oklahoma sky. He delights in this! Sometimes the tires never even hit the sandy wallows before our split-hooved boy catches them again and flips them back toward the heavens.

Well, one evening this week I was walking up the gravel driveway just in time to see just such an exhibition. It was thrilling. Chunk seemed to know I was watching, which prompted even more enthusiastic efforts. I ran inside to get my phone for nothing, because by the time I ran back outside he had abandoned his toys and just wanted kisses. Or cookies. Which I had not brought.

Geoffrey the Cat Naps on a Saddle
Thursday morning I was walking out of the east doors of the barn carrying a large green tub filled with hay. The air was icy but the sun was dazzling, the kind of brightness that will convince you of warmth that cannot possibly exist. I stopped with my face turned up to soak into my eyelids at least some sunlight and heard a gentle meow coming from the ground to my left. Still holding the tub of hay, I looked down and saw Geoffrey (our gray and white barn cat) folded up neatly on a discarded leather saddle. The saddle was partly collapsed on the dead grass, warmer I’m sure than any other perch Geoffrey could have chosen. I watched him stretch and flick his claws against the felty seat, his slender back a question mark. He meowed at me again and yawned, also tilting his eyelids sun-ward. Then his small cat body nestled itself perfectly in the shape of the saddle and he went to sleep. You know. For a cat nap.

Frozen Pond at Sunset
This particular beauty struck me at least four times just this week, and each time it was so stunning that I’m not even sad about missing the photo opportunities. The sun sets directly behind the pond this time of year, just barely south and west of it, with a ridge of oaks and cottonwoods there on the horizon. So whatever fiery kaleidoscope colors the sky is offering are reflected on the pond’s wet surface there. This week, with so many consecutive freezing days and nights, the pond has been milky-frosty, opaque, with waves and ripples suspended in time. You can easily imagine movement in the water, but it’s so perfectly still. It’s like the fierce Oklahoma winds did battle with the arctic air and lost, bowed out gracefully. The reds, oranges, and pinks of our magnificent sunsets are thrown into so many new textures, it’s really breathtaking. I have felt lucky to frequently be walking past an upstairs window just in time to see all this beauty.

My Best New Salad Invention
Honestly, I could easily have taken a photo of this salad. I almost did, really, but everyone keeps shaming me for being that woman who takes photos of all her food, and I am definitely susceptible to teasing peer pressure. So, trying to cut back. Anyway. The salad.
It was equal parts leafy green lettuce, raw spinach, and parsley. If that sounds like too much parsley, just trust me. It tastes amazing! I could literally feel my blood purifying with every bite. On top of your greens, slice up a small avocado and add just a fourth of a cup of toasted sunflower nuts. Splash the whole thing with lemon juice, add pepper, and enjoy. So good!! No need to use salt because the sunflower nuts are pretty salty already. Delicious and healthy. Enjoy!

A bamboo grove at our beloved OKC Zoo. One of the photos I did manage to take this week. xoxo
A bamboo grove at our beloved OKC Zoo. One of the photos I did manage to take this week. xoxo

My Handsome
He stands there at the bottom of the stairs dressed in a black button up shirt, starched and open at the throat, sleeves cuffed flat below his elbows, and dark wash jeans. His forehead is creased with pain from a tooth ache, and tides of stress, and exhaustion from not sleeping. Because of the tooth ache. And the tides of stress. His shoulders are broad and strong. Able to carry all the weight thrust on him every day, but growing weary. He is tall and muscular, with strong hands that grip me perfectly and green eyes that flash with anger, humor, and passion all at once. Those green eyes also try to hide a depth of loss neither of us ever expected to feel. He is protective, responsible, funny, affectionate, desperate, confident, and a little bit lost in this world. Just a little. But his vision will come through. The toothache will abate. His broad, strong shoulders will catch that one moment of relief he needs to square up again.

He stands there at the bottom of the stairs dressed in black, waiting for me to join him for our morning prayer. He is an innocent little boy and a strong civic leader, my husband and best friend, brother, father, neighbor, son. Past, present, and future all in this gorgeous body and Handsome face I have loved for so many years. And I will love him forever. Come What May.

If you don’t have a camera, friends, 
take pictures with your mind!
Tell me something beautiful with your words.
XOXOXOXO

 

 

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