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The Return of Tiny T

March 2, 2014

Well hello Missus Fancy Pants! Or Mister Fancy pants, as the case may be. I am so glad you stopped in on this exact day. Because today I am so happy to announce the return of Tiny T and his romantic (mis)adventures.

 

Tiny T stays pretty busy, you know, pitying fools.
Tiny T stays pretty busy, you know, pitying fools.

 

If you were a frequent reader here at The lazy W last autumn, then you may remember my short cohort and his pursuit of true love. I introduced his series on September 30th of last year.  We all had so much fun following his day-to-day choices and even guiding a few by group vote. It was intended to be a month-long choose-your-own adventure series, and you guys were FANTASTIC to participate so generously. I really loved you for it. You made it so much fun!

Everybody needs a few crazy friends, even Tiny T.
Everybody needs a few crazy friends, even Tiny T.

 

Handsome’s parents were among the warm, upbeat supporters of the Tiny T series, too, so much so that after the first couple of weeks they were making suggestions about which famous actress T should finally end up with. (Together they nominated an actress whose name rhymes with Sally Ferry.) I cannot tell you how much it warmed my heart that these two people, with so much heavy, serious stuff on their plate, took the time to read my silliness and encourage me. It turns out, even grown ups need their parents’ encouragement.

Thank you for that and so much more, Harvey and Judy.

Then we lost my mother in law Judy very suddenly. Overnight, all of our lives were forever different. I tabled the Tiny T series to focus on our family. But even as I wrote other things and life slowly and clumsily evened out, even after we had survived the holiday season more or less in tact, it never felt right to pick it back up again. My sweet father in law, Harvey, has spent the last four months with us here at the farm, and I could never bring myself to write even a ridiculous love story when he had lost his true love.

 

heart in soil

 

Well, some time has passed now. The grieving is certainly not done, but the shock has mostly subsided. We are finding little ways to move forward and make new, life affirming plans. Harvey has moved back to his home and Handsome and I are confident that he is going to be alright. We all have enjoyed a deep dose of familial love and now can relax enough to enjoy some silliness. Some Tiny T love seeking.

I hope you will join us! Perhaps you’d like to brush up on Tiny T’s Lookin’ for Love series so far? Here are the story installments from last October:

Introducing the Series

Episode One

Episode Two with a Vote!

Tiny T and Halloween Costumes

Episode Three

Episode Four, Another Vote!

Episode Five 

Introducing His Friends

Episode Six

Episode Seven

Episode Eight

Episode Nine

So all of that is what we have so far. This week I will write the next piece, picking up right where we left Tiny T, in New Orleans with two beautiful women to balance. Will you join us?

Tiny T thinks stories are best when shared and hopes you join the fun. "I pity the fool who doesn't believe in true love!" xoxo
Tiny T thinks stories are best when shared and hopes you join the fun. “I pity the fool who doesn’t believe in true love!” xoxo

 

 

Thanks for reading, friends! I hope your first weekend in March, whether sunny or snowy, has brought you the promise of new beginnings.

To Every Thing, Turn, Turn, Turn

There is a Season…

XOXOXOXO

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You are One of Them (book review)

March 1, 2014

This month our famous little Oklahoma Book Club, Dinner Club With a Reading Problem, devoured a novel by young American female author Elliott Holt. You are One of Them was just published last year and is the author’s fiction debut. I LOVED it. I read it in 24 hours, gleaned a ton of understanding as well as new curiosity, and was perfectly satisfied with the ending. THAT is a fabulous reading experience!

You are One of Them by Elliott Holt
You are One of Them by Elliott Holt

 

This novel is almost a bit of historical fiction, following the political and cultural framework of the United States and the Soviet Union from the 1970s to present day. So I loved it for that reason. But it is also a lusciously insightful story of a girl who became a woman and navigated complex female bonds in the same decades I did. Do you know how few books are out there that detail exactly the things I treasured about my girlhood friendships? Not many. I loved it for that reason, too. As if all of that’s not enough, Holt’s storytelling and prose are just as strong and seductive as you’d hope for in a book you read in the final cold days of winter.  The story, after all, takes place in large part in the frozen, daunting landscape of Mother Russia.

There’s something painfully honest about winter: the skeletal trees, the brutal repetition of the cold. There are no empty promises, no hazy humid hopes. It’s reality, lonely and stark.

Side Note: Book club found it really nifty that we accidentally read a novel set in Russia during the Sochi Olympics. Total accident. Very cool.

While the story may be touted as one family’s ground-level experience of the Cold War years, and it certainly is that, I would also describe it as being every bit as much a telling of how a broken little girl becomes a strong, capable woman. I feel like Holt almost uses the Cold War and its risky, duplicitous complexities as a metaphor for how women and girls relate to each other. These can be the most dangerous relationships in life, right? I can totally hear you nodding your head dramatically right now.

At school I learned to catch my sorrow in my throat and then stick my head into my locker and let the tears slide down my cheeks without making any vibration at all.

As I read, I rooted for one thing to happen or another, and I slowly realized that similar bursts of espionage are at play in my own life. The pacifist in me had to admit that I have been resisting peace on some fronts for too long. Not only that; I have also been stubborn in my own sense of rightness. For far too long.

I have come to believe that forgiveness is the key to survival. It does no good to see everything as a struggle between opposing factions. Few things are that simple.

Right?

I so enjoyed this book that I hope you will track it down, read it, and let me know what you think.

  • What did you think of the friendship with Jenny?
  • What about the divorce and the estrangement from her father?
  • What about her mother’s fearfulness and distant love?
  • Tell me what you think of the ending!!

Dinner Club With a Reading problem met on Thursday night and  such a great time! I LOVE these girls. For the most part we all agreed that You are One of Them was a good book. The female bonds were interesting and believable. We all agreed the ending was a relief, though I won’t spoil that for you. We also agreed that we never ever wish to visit Russia. Was this the author’s intention? It’s hard to guess, because apparently she worked as a journalist in Russia, much like one of the characters in her book. Interesting.

I give this breakout novel by Elliott Holt 5 stars. I hope you track it down and give it a few days of quietude then let me know what you think.

Happy reading!

“I was tired of straight jacketing my emotions.”

~Elliott Holt

XOXOXO 

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31 Days of Serving my Husband, a review

February 27, 2014

Hello friends! Today I am so happy to be sharing with you a brand  new devotional on marriage, one that inspires and encourages.

31 Days of Serving my Husband: the Devotional by Ashley, Domestic Fashionista
31 Days of Serving my Husband: the Devotional by Ashley, Domestic Fashionista

 

This is Ashley with her husband Brent. Aren’t they adorable? Ashley writes a bright, faith filled, loving blog called Domestic Fashionista and has captured my imagination in so many ways over the months I’ve read her sweet stuff. Her marriage devotional is just another example of how she pours out her heart and offers humility, encouragement, and scriptural framework for her ideas. She strikes the loveliest balance between instruction and very personal exchange, and she stays centered on Love. I so enjoy her warm, effervescent voice.

In just 31 different little chapters, originally a 31 day blog series, Ashley explores opportunities for growth in your marriage and shares how she has faced the same. She includes scriptures with each premise but never gets preachy. And at the end of each chapter, she asks simple, pointed questions that really stimulated my imagination. The questions are like little examinations of conscience, little challenges to “up your game” as wife.

This is actually one of the most unique and beautiful parts of the book: the notion that a better marriage can be built with personal accountability. Assessing what I can do more, better, different, or less rather than focusing on what my husband is or is not doing. And while it is written by a woman and for women, every bit of it could be enjoyed by a man and applied to the husband’s sensibility.

A quick note on that difference, which Ashley addresses gently and with great stillness of spirit: Modern feminism is a complex and fascinating topic. And the word serve has gathered lots of negative connotations in our society. It has somehow become synonymous with martyrdom and subjugation instead of love and joyful fulfillment. If you have a bitter taste in your mouth with this topic, I warmly encourage you to read Ashley’s full devotional, particularly Day 5. She is a young woman, college educated, and freely choosing her lifestyle. She debunks the ideas that marital service equals slavery… just be exuding so much joy! And she points time and again to motive and Love, not score keeping or obligation. It’s really beautiful.

His masculinity brings out my femininity, and my femininity brings out his masculinity.

Do you have five minutes to spend each day for a month, investing a little extra thought and intention into your marriage? I bet you do. And I believe that making those small, intentional investments will yield more than you can imagine. More satisfaction. More mutual appreciation. More joy. More rest. More trust. Check out Ashley’s devotional. Click and purchase it right here and start soaking up her inspiration. Then check back in here and let me know what you tried! 

Thanks for writing this, Ashley! I appreciate your sweet insights and efforts to communicate your heart. I know this ventures into delicate territory these days, and I hope that you have enjoyed lots of peace after the writing.

“When I am well, we are well.”

~Ashley Urke

XOXOXOXO

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Marathon Monday: a Happy Detour

February 25, 2014

Happy Marathon Monday! How are you? I have a quick running update (more for my own records) and some amazing news. Some encouragement for you to never stop praying for things that matter.

I finished Hal Higdon training week 8 with mixed feelings. With a total mileage goal of 26 for last week, I only ran 18. But those 18 miles I did run were gobbled up like candy, and I had tons of energy still in my legs! I started early in the week with a couple of short runs and enjoyed my first ever 8 mile “Laps of Eternity” run here at the farm. That is a heckuva lot of repetition, you guys. 32 times around the rectangular sandy back field. Even the llamas got bored of watching me. But I have to say it felt wonderful. I was on cloud nine after that run! My plan then was to round out the week with a 14 mile run at Lake Draper with the South Oklahoma City running club and the Landrunners. I was super excited! The weather has been drop dead gorgeous. Our schedule was just right. I had the strength and energy to spare. Check, check, check.

Then everything changed and our weekend was nothing like what we had planned. Because a prayer was answered.

My girls were both at the farm for the entire weekend. Both of them, at the same time, from Friday evening until Sunday afternoon! This is such a big deal. If you are close friends of ours then you know how nervous, giddy, and deep down thankful I was.

My oldest daughter used to run cross country and is among other wonderful things a talented athlete, so I invited her to join me on the the long run. It turns out she prefers sprinting to long distance, though, and her back was hurt, so that would have been a silly risk to take. We all stayed home on Saturday and just enjoyed the farm in every possible way.

Then very early Sunday morning, per a bedtime agreement from the night before,  she and I crept out at sunrise and struck out for our first ever run together. She was sweet enough to pace slowly with her old mama for seven laps. As we ran I had to suppress every urge to warn her of slippery red rocks or fallen limbs, to grab her elbow when her head flew too close to a pine branch. She isn’t a baby anymore I kept having to repeat to myself. Hard habit to break, you know?

Anyway, after lap seven she popped out one ear-bud, smiled, and said with all manner of coolness, “I’m just gonna wrap this up!” And then she evaporated. I have no idea where she ran to, she was so fast. I think she was abducted by aliens, the way she just tore off the well beaten dirt path like quicksilver.

A natural sprinter, indeed. I ran one more mile while she fed the horses before church, and I could not stop smiling. It took several years, but we finally ran together. And that is more special to me than any practice run with strangers could ever be.

So my heart is brimming as I type this, even though my miles are lagging ever so slightly. I started this new week off strong, again, and have every reason to believe that my body is capable of doing whatever I ask it to do.

More importantly. I have every reason to believe that Love is powerful enough to answer every prayer, no matter how impossible it seems.

Keep running, friends. And never stop hoping and praying!

XOXOXOXO

 

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Flower Bulb Winner!

February 24, 2014

Wow you guys! I am so happy for my friend Dee and all the much deserved attention she has enjoyed with her first book’s Valentine’s Day release. Gardeners and readers from all over God’s green earth have been scrambling to enter the giveaway here and at the other spectacular blogs participating. More importantly, though, people are buying her smart, gorgeous book. I hope you are too! The 20-30 Something Guide to Gardening is easily the most beautiful and accessible gardening book on my heavily laden shelves. I LOVE it.

Well, it’s time to announce the Longfield Gardens tulip & daffodil bulb giveaway winner.

Drumroll…..

 

25 daffodil bulbs from Longfield Gardens
25 daffodil bulbs from Longfield Gardens
25 tulip bulbs from Longfield Gardens
25 tulip bulbs from Longfield Gardens

 

 

From upwards of 70 entries, all of which made my heart go pitter patter with the overflowing garden passion and general sparkling friendliness, the randomly chosen winner is…

Debbie S.!!

She added this comment:

I have a perennial garden and a small vegetable garden. I seem to grow a lot of different salvias. I love the variety and how hummingbirds flock to most of them.

Yay Debbie, congratulations!! I hope you will stay in touch with us here at the W and let us know how your gardens do this year. Maybe post pics to the Facebook page of how you incorporate the flower bulbs into your gardens!

That goes for all of you. I am so thrilled to have met so many wonderful new people through this fun event. I hope to get better acquainted with everybody and share lots of garden knowledge and encouragement this season. And just some laughs along the way. Be sure you find this book and enjoy it. It is a treasure.

Thank you Dee for this unique experience. Thank you Longfield Gardens for the generous prize. And thanks to all of you fine people for participating. I hope we stay in touch. Happy Gardening!

“I love spring anywhere, but if I could choose

 I would always greet it in the garden.”

~Ruth Stout

XOXOXOXO

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