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early november saturday reading links

November 5, 2016

As I offer you these links to browse, and I hope you do so at a leisurely pace while drinking your favorite Saturday morning hot beverage, I am on a mandatory rest thanks to strep throat. After sleeping eleven hours last night I don’t feel like resting; I feel like being up doing stuff. Buy my husband insists. So at least I have more time for reading at a leisurely pace and sipping my favorite coffee and later gulping homemade soup, right?

Okay then let’s make that soup filled with chicken and kale and ginger and garlic. Because I forgot to buy more acorn squash, again. Oh! Maybe some pumpkin or lentils in the soup? Maybe. For now, this morning, perfect dark coffee. Maybe some cream. And antibiotics.

Shall we?

Over at Hither and Thither we find a succinct and elegant commentary on a New York Times Magazine article about the freedom that comes with minimalism, sort of. The author of Narrow Down Your Sense of Need draws a distinction between sailing around the world (physically) and sailing through it (spiritually). I loved this so much. Maybe it’s a lesson we all need to refresh once in a while, and of course it grooves me these days as Handsome and I strive make the farm literally less cluttered.

But it occurs to me that narrowing down one’s sense of need for external validations and affirmations could be another way to think about how to access freedom.

Somehow while sewing aprons on Thursday I stumbled onto a series of lectures by a group called Healthcare Triage. I listened to maybe twenty in a row, of varying lengths, and became smitten by their pairing of process-heavy research, casual but helpful explanations, and some pretty funny skepticism. In a world noisy with buzzwords, this information source was a breath of fresh air. Rather than point you to a specific article or video, I just want to introduce you to the whole shebang. If you are a wellness junkie like me but crave more fact-backing and less corporate sponsorship, then this might be worth your time.

The next link was brought to my attention on Facebook when a dear friend posted it and I unwittingly entered a barely heated exchange. I have been thinking of both the article and the fallout ever since and would love to hear more people’s opinions. The 30-Day Relationship Revitalization Plan. I will resist framing it too much and just let you read it for yourself. Please feel free to email me if you’d rather keep your opinions private.

The title of this Minnesota Public Radio article caught my attention, then its short content just raised more interesting questions. The statistics just made me want to read more, but more of what I already read. Not so much poetry. Literature Reading Rates Down.

You know by now that I have the biggest girl crush on Joy the Baker, and it’s not not because she lives in the most magical city ever. Really, the two just fit each other to my thinking. I am excited for her new cookbook to release, and I am really excited about her Bakehouse announcement! The interior decor here is spot on, and how amazing to open your home to students and readers. Very cool. Very cool indeed.

forever new orleans

Have you seen this documentary yet? Sugarcoated. A lot of it will feel familiar, but many of the statistics are new and get extra credit for being disturbing. (All eyes on liver disease in kids who never drink alcohol.) I am paying close attention to my sugar intake not just for fat loss but also because eating it so often makes me feel weird. My mom was diagnosed with diabetes just a few years ago, so it has my attention. I mean I still want a perfect, steaming, complicated homemade cookie now and then. Please make sure it’s oatmeal-chocolate-chip with crushed walnuts or pecans, and please bring me cold milk. Otherwise, yeah let’s pay attention to our sugar intake for many good reasons.

Speaking of sweet stuff…

At a recent beekeepers’ club meeting in Noble, OK, I heard some folks talking about the winter forecast, about how mild it promises to be, and how that’s more or less good news for our fuzzy little ladies-not-of-leisure. The Farmers’ Almanac agrees, and so far Oklahoma weather is holding steady. I just yesterday bought a few fall plants on clearance (what few they had left), and it still feels too early. This does make being outside nice, though.

30 Thoughts Runners Have at the Grocery Store. “I’m so virtuous!” Ha. Yep. Also, bring on the kale.

Side note: I had approximately nine more running article to share with you guys but decided to have mercy.

Okay, Klaus’ brother Lincoln has spent a couple of nights with us at the farm, and those two big German Shepherds plus one husband are beckoning for a cuddle. I hope you have a wonderful Saturday filled with great reading and zero strep throat germs. Send me a link or a new book title!

“Rest and be thankful.”
~William Wadsworth
XOXOXO

 

 

 

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love transcends criticism

October 23, 2016

A small church a few miles from our farm uses their roadside marquee to keep passersby encouraged. They display an unpredictable mix of scripture, wit, political commentary, and undemanding inspirational messages. You know the drill. It’s always sweet and well intentioned, sometimes funny. The messages are never preachy, not really. Sometimes they spell words wrong, but this only starts great conversations.

This week one side of the brick and mortar marquee offers a message that resonates with me as a woman, a mother, a friend, a wife, and just the person living inside my own head and body. 

Love accomplishes what criticism can only wish for.

I believe so firmly that Love is an actual power, that it is much more than an emotion or idea, even more than the actions we manage to take. Love is a sovereign, pulsing, ocean-crossing, universe-binding power that we cannot diminish, no matter what we do or fail to do.

open-road-blue-skies

railroad-track

mural

I don’t have a lot more to say except that this was a message well timed for me. 

Happy end of the weekend, friends! However you spend it I hope it’s exactly what you need. And whatever you are doing to participate in Love, I hope you trust that your efforts and intentions matter. Trust that every little seed we cast in the right direction will find purchase. Love is infinitely more powerful than criticism. It is nourishing and constructive. It is trans-formative.

I’ll take a cue from our neighborhood church and resist the urge to be (any more) preachy. 

Your task is not to seek for love
but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself 

that you have built against it.
~Rumi
XOXO

 

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all these octobers

October 13, 2016

One of Mama Kat’s writing prompts this week intrigued me for a reason that was difficult to articulate even to myself, until I did the work. She asked us to share what we had blogged about this time last year, and the year before, etcetera. After taking a look I realized that this month of seasonal transition has historically delivered quite a punch. Just when Oklahoma’s weather is mellowing out and the gardens are slowing to an easy pace, I get my own personal little hurricane season. It’s not all been bad or painful, of course; sometimes change is exactly what we need. And even pain can be fruitful. 

2015

October last year was like emotional excavation. I remember loving the outdoors daily and feeling aware of my age but happy. Klaus was growing fast and Jocelyn was settling into a new chapter in Colorado, and I was all about the slow decay of nature, the passage of time. I was dreaming heavily about Jessica, just as I am this October. This post called Lovelier Than Perfection was short and sweet. But then a strong wave of nostalgia and empty-nest pain crashed into me and I wrote this. A month before some stuff had happened in our marriage that caused such deep and lasting hurt between us that I can hardly believe it was a full year ago. Remember the Super Moon? It more or less coincided with those events that are still a tender bruise to us. Or at least to me. And October was when I started releasing it all. Whew.

joc sunset dusty

2014

October two years ago was when our tomcat Geoffrey got stuck. It was also when Jocelyn was visiting the farm and we made some pretty gorgeous memories like the ones shared here. As happens when the weather changes, I also had to claw my way out of the pit of deep despair and back into the light. But I was also baking these cookies and reminiscing about early motherhood and my Grandpa. See? HURRICANE.

flourless peanut butter cookie recipe

2013

October 2013 was when we lost my husband’s mother. Hers was a sudden death, though she had not been well or happy (stress-free) for a long time. The years and months and days and hours since have been a mix of pain and healing, anxious awareness of stress levels and heart health (my husband’s in particular), and filling the many holes left by grief that big. That same month, of course, we tried to rally our spirits to help my parents celebrate a milestone wedding anniversary, and my goodness how life has tested them in the few years since. October 2013 was hard. Beautiful in the ways that helped us survive, but hard.

2012

The October before that, we hosted a really fun family dinner here at the farm to celebrate my Dad’s 55th birthday! We all laughed hard with each other and ate lasagna with all the trimmings followed by a butter-pecan layer cake with cream cheese frosting. I love my Dad so much and hope we get to celebrate his birthday again this year! Fingers crossed that he just cannot live without this cake again.

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Also in 2012 was a pretty memorable book club event that included an out of town guest author, Jen Luitweiler She drove all the way from Tulsa to the farm to meet most of our group at that time and answer a thousand-hundred-million questions about her book Run With Me. We ate and talked and listened and ate and smiled until it hurt. (I feel like pointing out that this was a several months before I started training for my first half marathon! Long time ago. Ancient history.)

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Even Earlier…

Going back much further would plunge us into pre-blogging Octobers and a family life that was filled with a mix of volleyball and homework, suddenly vacant little girl bedrooms, an abundance of friendships to distract us, newborn babies, road trips, fledgling gardens, rent houses and used car purchases, art projects, slumber parties, and terrifying hospital stays. Not in that order. I kind of wish I had been blogging all along, just to digest again the best and worst parts of life.

As much as I crave and relish the details of any big season change, clearly it tends to be a mixed blessing. And that’s okay. For all its difficulties, life continues to look and feel more beautiful every October.

Thanks for the walk down memory lane, Kat! See you on Snap-Chat. You are so cute as the deer. 

“We write to taste life twice,
In the moment and in retrospect.”
~Anais Nin
XOXOXOXO

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pleasure list from tuesday

October 5, 2016

Nothing fancy. Just lots and lots of every day pleasures with remembering.

A clean, light-filled house with silly-scary Halloween decorations. Which is extra funny, knowing that we actually do have ghosts here.

Yawning, snuffly horses. Smooth-bellied boys eager to snuggle.

My favorite hen with almost no feathers left. Her name is Shoulder Chicken. She is highly optimistic.

Winds of change mid-morning and again in the afternoon. Shady running trail with broken twigs in the grass and sand. Eight miles of pure bliss.

Lantana blossoms changing from mostly yellow to mostly red, but the leaves are still green.

Freshly shampooed hair, sore thighs, abundant energy.

Carving a pumpkin I grew myself and (for the first time in years) not crying over Halloweens long gone. This empty nest is filling up with contentment about today and peace with the past.

pumpkin

Roasting those pumpkin seeds, pureeing that pumpkin meat, and then randomly baking banana bread with chocolate chips because I couldn’t stand to do something ordinary with that gorgeous bowl of orange. Yes to Greek yogurt and sea salt in the banana bread.

Making beef enchiladas from scratch while listening to Awolnation loud. Remembering brilliant hikes at Gem Lake. Loving all the fresh air right here in Oklahoma.

Roasting Anaheim peppers until the vapors sting my eyes.

Finding two of my favorite necklaces on my dresser, untangled.

Seeing new happy photos of my girl in Colorado, horseback, loving her pup, living her life.

Scooping dry manure into the empty herb garden, dreaming of what will grow there next.

Hydrangea soft and perky again after being watered.

Denim blue skies streaked with grey. Black clouds and bursts of metallic sun.

Satisfying belly laughs watching the SNL rerun about the Presidential debates. They basically said all the best things. All hail.

Reading weird little paragraphs that leave me wondering how much can actually be lost in translation only to land on a sentence that resonates. Ah there it is.

Friends, happy Tuesday night. I hope you are having such a delicious, interesting, soul-nurturing day. Around here I am physically and emotionally overwhelmed to stop and count all the pleasures. All the answered prayers too, although that’s not what I’m talking about today. Ok maybe a little.

“While it does embrace spirit,
it is most accurately described as a way of life,
distinguished by the ready accessibility
of happiness and love.”
~Don Miguel Ruiz
XOXOXOXO

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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a week’s worth of links worth sharing

October 1, 2016

Before we read, let’s laugh:

If that doesn’t work, let’s try apple cider vinegar. Or maybe some essential oils.

How to be a Morning Person by Marisa Mohi. Marisa is another member of Oklahoma Women Bloggers, and she and I are becoming fast friends. At least in my mind. She might be reading this and weaving her head slowly left and right in a freaked-out, hey back off lady kind of way. Whatever. We are both quite good at Snapchat and she writes smart, interesting stuff weekly. This is just one example. 

Farro-Apple-Mozzarella Salad by Sandy the Reluctant Entertainer. As always, Sandy offers a mouth-watering recipe right alongside some deep, relatable emotions and a healthy dose of wisdom. I love her spirit. Sandy and her husband have recently moved to a small mountain cabin (remind you of anyone?) and are focusing on downsizing their material world so they can maximize their life. This has been a huge motivation for me here at the farm. Beautiful stuff.

Holly’s Farmhouse Tour by Allison at Refunk My Junk. YOU GUYS. Love. Just when I abandon all the crazy colors here and dive deep into charcoal and gold. But still.

Secrets of People Who are Always Full of Energy by Apartment Therapy. As someone who is normally bursting with energy (not this week, it has been a sickly week for me) I wholly support each of the suggestions here. Seven great daily commitments to make to your own well-being. 

Six Month Novel Writing Plan Maybe one of the reasons I feel such joy with marathon training is that it teaches the power of a structured, long-term plan. It changes an impossible-seeming dream into a realistic, even an appetizing goal. Now to get this book out of my head and onto paper.

Lactate Threshold What it is and how it can make you faster. Yes, a running article. The author explains tempo runs in a way that really clicked for me, and she explains the science behind that deeply cleansing sensation of a long, slow run. Our bodies are amazing. 

Speaking of amazing, let’s try this soon! Coffee Granola Clusters. Okay.

This cute slide show 18 Lessons You Learn When Dating a Girl Who Loves Her Dog made me think of our beautiful baby in Colorado. She is devoted to her pup Bridget and Bridget is devoted to her, and dating boys never interferes with that, ha. 

best hiking buddies ever
best hiking buddies ever

Thank you for checking in, friends! What have you been reading?

“I get sad every time I hear a person say I don’t read.
It’s like saying I don’t learn or
I don’t laugh or
I don’t live.”
~Unknown
XOXOXOXO

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