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We Had Them for Breakfast

August 11, 2011

   Half of our Couch Surfers (the Romeo half)
is breezing through town tonight
and staying for the THIRD time at the farm,
so I am reminded that we never really wrapped up that story. 
Shall we?


   When last we spoke, I believe Pacino had attempted but failed to ruin a good night’s sleep for all four of us.  Despite his best bird efforts, we managed to sleep through the night, comfortably twined up in happiness and exhaustion.  I did not dream.
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   My eyes popped open at precisely 6:09 the next morning, as if they were spring-loaded.  Apparently my hostess-slash-new-friends nerves were still awake from the night before.  This should be interesting I thought to myself.  Then I ignored myself and rolled my eyes.
   I found a tank top and some yoga pants, scrunched my hair into a halfway normal ponytail (because nobody, not even a globe trotting couchsurfer, wants blonde-hair quiche for breakfast), and tiptoed downstairs.  No Hot Tub Summit today; today we have guests.
   Thanks to a timer, the strong, steaming coffee was already forcing its way through to the glass carafe, hissing and bubbling, filling the downstairs with that glorious Good Morning fragrance.  So far the doors to the Green Room (where Josh and Megan slept) were closed.  Pacino was thankfully still imitating a tiny blue flamingo, head bowed and eyes pinned shut.  I tiptoed across the wood floors and began opening curtains as quietly as possible.  I poured myself some coffee, trying to keep the kitchen clinking down to a minimum, and surveyed our options.
   Seriously, we struck gold with our
innaugural Couch Surfing experience. 
Josh & Megan were soooo nice,
so interesting, and such easy-peasy guests
that Handsome and I are actually nervous
to have other murdering strangers people here,
because they cannot possibly be as wonderful.
  
   Some of the details escape me now, but I can tell you that it was a beautiful morning in every way.  Handsome had to eventually trudge off to the office, but he found a way to linger with us for a couple of extra hours.  While he showered and dressed for work, I started some food, and at some point pretty early in that process, Josh appeared in the kitchen.
   Our conversation picked up right about where it had left off, me greedily pressing Josh for details about their travels and him politely accommodating me, lots of smiling and laughing, lots of free flowing stories.  He could not know then that I was secretly trying to memorize his faint accent to add to my Garmin-like collection.  Megan’s is even better; she is a Canadian transplanted to Florida, with a little back note of southern drawl.  Hers are enviable inflections, all natural.
   Josh also helped cook, which was so much fun.  I had been told that Megan likes to sleep a bit later, so we tried to not be too loud.  
   The mix of sounds, smells, and mood reminded me of being a little girl and overhearing grown ups sharing the earliest morning hours together, happy and calm, safe from the inevitable chaos of the day.  I used to stay in my room and just listen, not so much to the words, but to the muffled, echoing peace that came from the house before five million children were filling it. 
I LOVE CHILDREN! 
   Don’t get me wrong,  But you know as well as I do that a house has a different vibe in the hours surrounding dawn.  And adult voices still creaky and hoarse from sleep are just flat out interesting.
   The table was gradually filled with cinnamon rolls, bowls of chopped tomatoes and mushrooms, sliced fruits, shredded cheese, and sweet, tasty jams and jellies for toast.  We prepared eggs for everyone, poured juice, and made more coffee.  When Handsome descended all spiffy in his office attire (growwwl) he offered to make his famous hashbrowns.  YUM.  So within half an hour the downstairs was overflowing with delicious food fragrances, and we had enough breakfast to nourish the occupants of at least five additional couches.  Megan joined us and made the conversation absolutely sparkle!
   When I fiinally sat down to eat, I was dreading that everyone would be in a rush to leave.  I knew that both the office and the interstate beckoned and so gave serious thought to hiding everyone’s car keys.  But apparently I wasn’t the only person having a great time! 
Walking Like an Egyptian… 
That’s how I celebrate.
   An early breakfast stretched into a liesurely brunch, interrupted here and there for someone to take a shower or walk outside and get photos with the animals.  Having arrived on a late-winter evening, Josh & Megan had driven up to an already dark farm, and visually things are a lot different in the morning.

   Over the course of our brief time together, we learned that Josh and Megan had finished their Master’s degrees a semester early and decided to spend their free springtime travelling the country via, you guessed it, Couch Surfing.  They had already amassed quite a fascinating collection of stories from all over the place, some fully justifying my murderous tension.  But most of their stays had been exceedingly pleasant and actually very life-affirming. 
   All of this serves to remind me that life is meant to be lived
and that there are many ways to go about it successfully and happily. 
Just because one person or one couple finds a click and a formula that works
does not necessarily rule out a very different click and formula for someone else. 
And why not share?  Birds of a feather may flock together,
but then they also tend to blend in.

 

   The men pored over a paper map of Oklahoma, identifying spots along Route 66 that might be worth a look-see.  Megan and I chatted more about the meaning of life and good smelling shampoo.  I learned that she wants to keep chickens someday.  I told her it is one of my very favorite parts of the farm, which is a fact. 
   As the time to part ways eventaully crept up on us, I did my best to not be annoying by begging everyone to stay a little longer.  Handsome shook hands, hugged, and warmly invited them to return soon, then he drove off to the coal mines. 
He doesn’t really work in the coal mines, but sometimes that how it feels.
   Josh and Megan found their shoes, packed up their car, cleaned their room, and accepted some bags of food for the road.  Maps in hand, they drove down the gravel driveway and out through the open gate. 

    As per his norm, Pacino sang, “Buh-byyye!!!” for three or four minutes.
    After the house was empty and quiet again, I walked around absorbing all of the amazing vibrations.  I found our guest room book where lots of fine people have written a speck of Lazy W history.  Inside was Megan’s handwriting.  If I could find that book right now, I would share a photo with you of what she wrote.  Alas…
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Epilogue


   A few months later, they visited us again.  This time they were on the brink of parting ways themselves, though just circumstantially.  They have both found good jobs, Josh in New Mexico and Megan in Ohio. 

    Sniff.

   They now share a puppy, Ben.  He.  Is.  Cute.  And Megan’s Canadian-Floridian-southern drawl voice kicks into high gear when she says, “Guuud boooiii Baaiin…”  It is the sweetest thing you ever heard.

   We urged them to consider using the farm as a meeting spot as they navigate a long-distance relationship.  We’ve kept in touch a little via email since then, delighting in stories about romantic sky diving trips, for example, and gaining the blogging identity green light.  But tonight will be the first time we’ve seen hide or hair of our new friends since that second visit.  We’ll really miss Megan but can’t wait to see Josh!

   I feel so fortunate to have met Romeo and Juliet and to have shared life stories with each other.  It’s fun to find common ground with people who are following such a different life path.  I wish them well in my heart.  What a great couple! 

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Exfoliate My Soul (book review of The Shack)

August 10, 2011

   Our most excellent little Oklahoma book club recently tackled a piece of fiction that served up a heckuva lot more than this girl bargained for.  At our previous dinner, we agreed on William P. Young’s The Shack.  Have you heard of it yet?  I had not heard of it prior to the night we discussed what to read next, but apparently the buzz is widespread and I live beneath a rock.  Typical.

It bears mentioning that although for book club I checked out my copy
 from the library and am painfully challenged by it, I plan to by a copy now. 
I need to have more time with it and possibly read it again in a year or so.
   Anyhoo, let’s chat about this.  I would not characterize it as Christian fiction exactly, although it certainly has a spiritual message and is unapologetically bent toward Christ.  It is also not all mystery, although there is a mystery that needs clearing up.  It was, however, absolutely written by someone who loves words.  For better or for worse, you decide.
   Overall this was a difficult read for me.  It was beefy and mentally profitable, so I do suggest that thinking people check it out, but it was an uphill belly crawl toward completion.  If you choose to read The Shack, please do so without the expectation of being fully entertained.  Crack it open in a quiet room.  Keep your Bible handy for referencing and maybe also a blank journal.  I suspect it will draw out of you a flood of thought and emotion that will need somewhere to crash land.  Plan on crying and possibly raging.
   Or maybe that’s just me?  It just wore me out from head to toe, scrubbing my head and my heart mercilessly.  Especially since I had been reading it alternately with a completely frivolous Stieg Larsson book, my hours with The Shack were EXHAUSTING by comparison.
   Without spoiling the story itself, here are some themes that come to the surface of this book:
  • Trusting God’s goodness when you don’t really trust Him anymore
  • Senseless tragedy and how people cope with it
  • Hating God (and repenting of that)
  • Reconciling genuine spirituality with indoctrinated religion
  • Relating personally to God
  • Abandoning judgemental tendencies
  • Forgiving those who have wronged you
  • Accepting your own forgiveness
  • Believing you are loved
  • When should grief expire?
   Our group that night was twice the size we normally have, partially because the book already had an audience that was happy to gather and share.  Once everyone was fed (we eat WELL, remember?) and comfy in the living room, we cautiously dipped our toes into a proper conversational review.
   I would say that over half of the group really liked The Shack.  Loved it, in fact.  The inspirational quality of the story was admittedly powerful and certainly enough to bond people together over a mutual love for God, among other beautiful sentiments.
   I feel a little bad being in this particular minority, and I am having trouble putting my finger on why I feel bad about it.  The book just scrubbed me so dang hard.  It HURT.  It challenged my unnatural hard heartedness, and it articulated religious issues I have been wanting to address for years.  It forced me to acknowledge how far I have drifted in my own grief, how attached I am to it, and how much I have allowed it to separate me from God.
  
 This is all very serious business, you guys,
and I really just wanted to read about dragon tattoos ‘n stuff.
      A few passages resonated for me in ways that I am able to enjoy apart from the tricky doctrine.  I had to resist whipping out my trusty highlighter since I was reading a borrowed volume.  Among them:
“…So to live as if you are are unloved is a limitation.
Living unloved is like clipping a bird’s wings
and removing its ability to fly.”

   I have to admit that despite all difficulty with heavy message, thick prose, etc, the singular result of my reading this was a renewed craving for my old prayer life.  If nothing else, Mr. Young convinced me to reconsider trading my calloused heart for calloused knees, and that cannot be all bad.
   So no, I do not flat out LOVE every book I read.  But even the tough reads can have a lot to offer.  And I sure don’t have all of my spiritual ducks in a row right now, evidenced by my extreme discomfort in having my soul exfoliated like that; but I do appreciate being led back through pain and then arriving at a completely believable sense of peace afterward.
   Overall, I am happy to have read The Shack and expect to read it again in the near future.  If you have some words of review, please share!
  
   Also, please read  this brilliant girl’s  review of the same book.  She is one of our newest book club members and drove many hours to the farm to be part of this weekend!  We mulled over the intricacies of the stuff for hours.  Enjoy.

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That’s Not Funny…LOL

August 9, 2011

   Shamefully, against my will, and much to the chagrin of my friends and family members, I am definitely suscestible to bouts of inappropriate laughter.  Lots of terrible, serious things make me grin, and no matter how old I grow I remain powerless against this weird force of nature.

It’s just laughter, though, so how harmful can that be?!?!?! 
   If an old person fall down, well good grief, apparently just thinking about it is making me laugh!  I don’t want anyone to get hurt, but that is FUNNY STUFF.  And obviously I am a bad person.
   If a small animal, but especially a cat, makes any kind of offensive maneuver against a human, that is giggling gold to me.

   If I hear a man scream in fear like a little girl, no matter the mortal danger, it is hilarious.  I crave to hear a squeaky, panicky voice shred a grown man’s face against his will.  And if either this or the cat-human thing happens on television, you can bet your angry scowl I will be rewinding and watching that bad boy for an hour and a half.

   This next one is bad.  It could cause you to stop reading my blog forever and shake your head slowly in disgust, breathing dramatically as you click the X button in the upper right hand corner of your monitor.  Ready?
   When my husband or one of our children or maybe one of my parents or siblings has suffered a M-I-N-O-R injury, maybe something that just causes some momentary stress or requires little more than a dab of N-n-n-neo…  Sporin… and a bandage, well, it is embarrassing, but I do laugh.  Out loud.  It has caused a few fights, rest assured. 
   I like to think that it’s part of my maternal instincts, actually.  You know, maybe the annoying (and potentially infuriating) giggles from your should-be caregiver can distract you from your pain.  That kind of thing.

   Today Handsome was mad at me for something.  Something kind of big.  And I had to cover my face with both hands and pull on the skin beneath my eyes to try and settle down.  Because the madder he got the funnier it was to me.   I COUDLN’T HELP IT!!!  It was uncontrollable!  Try as I might, I could not wipe that stupid grin off of my guilty face, and of course that fueled his anger fire a bit.
   He broke for a just moment, chortling at me with adorable mercy.  But then to compensate for this breach in strategy he dove into further explanation of why he was so mad at me, and GOD HELP ME it was funny!!!
   I think maybe I am allergic to crisis and laughter is how the allergy manifests itself.  Lots of things make it worse and nothing really makes it better except to just laugh it out.
   If you are ever the unhappy victim of my inappropriate laughter, just let the goofy flame burn itself out.  Don’t bother trying to reason with me at all.  FOR SURE do not say, “I am serious!!!”
   Oh man, anyone who is serious is instantly hilarious to me, that’s just how it goes. 
   Thank you, MamaKat, for prompting me to admit this terrible truth.  I feel better, sort of.  At lots of other people’s expense.

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XIV

August 8, 2011

   Today our youngest daughter is celebrating her FOURTEENTH birthday!  She is the sweetest, smilinest, song-singinest, hug-givinest girl you will ever meet, and I am just floored that another year has already passed. 

 Just for fun I would really groove on sharing some essential truths about this beautiful human being whom I am blessed enough to call Daughter.  Who is fourteen years old now.  Which hardly seems possible.  Because time flies.  It is slipping slipping slipping, into the future, right at this moment.

At an animal refuge in Tuttle,. OK, Februrary 2007
   Carrying her in pregnancy was easy and comfortable, and carrying her as an infant was just delicious.  She loved to cuddle then as much as she does now.
   She greatly prefers sour candy to chocolate and delights in challenging family members to see how much sour they can tolerate.

   Given a choice, she’ll always pick bowtie pasta over spaghetti noodles and marinara sauce over alfredo.

    She loves long showers and can often be heard singing in them.

   She is a talented writer and voracious reader, despite some difficulty getting started in the reading department years ago.  There is no adult in my life whose conversation about books I prefer to hers.  She is insightful and sensitive far beyond her fourteen years.

   For most of those fourteen years, orange has been her favorite color.

 

Spreading her very happy eagle wings at Martin Nature Park, OKC, eight 1/2 years old

   She laughs musically.  And regarding smiles that light up a room, there is no comparison to hers.

   She can COOK.  I mean, not just pretend to cook like some kids, which is adorable, this girl can COOK.  She is trustworthy in the kitchen and a true asset to the family meal.

       She can identify wild tomato plants just by sniffing their fruitless stems, and she understands that lemon and basil are nature’s perfume.
       She has impeccable telephone manners. 
       She is an avid rope jumper.  She used to practice jumping rope while her older sister practiced with the basketball team, and I would count for her.  One day she jumped a consecutive 694 times!  No break, no joke.  She was rightfully amazed.
       She is as tireless on the trampoline as she is with a jump rope.
    She is gentle with animals, endlessly affectionate, and has a calming nature about her. 
    Her pet rooster named Rocky knows he is her favorite and has made her his.
   
   She is loyal to a fault, defending her siblings and her close friends against all pain and all opposition.

   She knows how to pray; she knows that God heals; and she will share her faith with people, but gently.

She would swim 24 hours a day if we let her but never compains when it’s time to dry off. 
Handsome and I gave her this boat for her twelfth birthday, late at night,
and she was so excited that she filled it with pillows and blankets and slept there. 
The next morning she was on the water before breakfast.



   Once upon a time our girl was elected Chaplain of her Sunday School class, and while she held that office she took the job very seriously.  I used to love hearing the scriptures she selected each week and then her personal comments on them.  She displayed the best poise, the greatest respect for the Bible, and the strongest sense of teamwork I have ever seen in a child at church.  Noone was prouder than Handsome and me.

   She has always become deeply attached to her teachers at school.  And her teachers have always had lovely things to say about her, constantly praising her passion, discplined efforts, and sweetness-without-borders in the classroom.
   She loves to fall asleep having her back tickled and her hair stroked, listening to Raindrops on Roses or made up stories about the Pine Forest.
   She likes cranberry-orange juice in the morning and warm milk with honey at night.
   She endured brain surgery twice as a toddler and recovered miraculously both times.  The details and memories are seared into my heart, and the resulting gratefulness for her survival and healing keeps bitterness over other things sort of mild.  God has surprised us over and over again.

   It seems like nearly every friend of hers has claimed her as “BEST friend.”  Because she really is. 

   When she turned thirteen last summer, she had just moved into the upstairs “Apartment.”  We’d installed brand new carpet, very soft and exactly the color she wanted, and one of her wishes was a vacuum sweeeper all to herself.  We bought her a smallish, bright pink one, and she swept the entire floor I think every day for two weeks.  She would then empty the canister and survey the contents, evaluating whether people might have been walking in her room with dirty shoes. 
   While it is fun to receive gifts you really, really, really want, it is even more fun to give those gifts to your children.  The sillier the beter.  She isn’t here now, but every time I see this pink sweeper I giggle.

Kinda looks to me like Picachu knows exactly what’s coming.  Yikes.

   She is a MAJOR fan of pinatas.  Looking back through her birthday party pictures over the years, I found only three that did NOT include a tissue-covered, candy-filled object of pretend childhood wrath.  She is tiny but quite strong.  And every year that Handsome strung up a pinata for her and her friends to bash, she did so with ferocity and laughter that would frighten Katniss Everdeen.
   In addition to being super clean, she is a born nester.  Once, I discovered she had applied personalized wall vinyls to her bed nook without any help, and she has always enjoyed rearranging her bedroom, fluffing pillows, changing doll clothes, organizing her book shelves, etc.  I cannot wait to see her own adult home in the future!
   She values modesty, even in her new adolescent beauty.  Which is enormous, by the way.  She is one of those true ladylike beauties, needing no embellishment but knowing how to use it tastefully.

   Like any parent, I could write non stop for days and days about my child.  She and her sister are the light of my heart, the sheer amazement of life.  
   My words cannot do justice to her beauty or her spirit, so I can only close in saying, “HAPPY BIRTHDAY CHICKEN!!!  You are the picture of softness and sweetness and vulnerability.  You have been given treasures of femininity and love that not many women enjoy.  You have a heart for the Lord.  You are the sort of friend everyone needs in life.  You have a voice that fills empty spaces and drives out shadows.  Your tanned, skinny arms are strong enough to squeeze the breath out of a grown adult, and I miss them.  Be happy, be healthy, take it slow, and enjoy every day.  I love you forever, no matter what, no matter where we are, no matter how long!  Love, Momma.”

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I Just Love Those Damn Dirty Apes

August 2, 2011

   Since way back in my ten speed days, I have been a huge Planet of the Apes fan.   Like so many great television shows and movies from that era, this series boasted just the right amount of kitsch to be classic and delicious.  It posed a dozen important moral dilemmas and social questions at once but could never be taken too seriously because of the terribly flat green screens, inconsistent face masks, and overly dramatic close ups. 

THIS STUFF IS FANTASTIC!!!
   I like the original movies from 1968 starring Charlton Heston and Roddy McDowall.  I reeeaaally like the 2001 Mark Wahlberg reboot.  I am eagerly anticipating the James Franco prequel later this week.  Awaiting it even more eagerly than I am (gasp) the Hunger Games film.  
   Yes, I said it.  Am I kicked out of book club permanently?
   The issues Apes raises are always worth revisiting:
  • animal cruelty
  • perceived intelligence and how that impacts a creature’s worth
  • gender dominance
  • social order
  • racism
  • nuclear arms
  • war and peace
  • authority and revolt
  • violence
  • worship and idolatry
  • cultural preservation
   GOSH the list goes on and on!  What’s NOT to love about this story series?
   But importance aside, these movies are full of monkeys.  I (heart) monkeys.  And the other Planet of the Apes images are absolutely irresistible to dorky girls like me.

I totally groove on the adobe chimp houses, all decorated in perfect 1960’s macrame style. 
I am happily terrified by the gorillas’ dark, militant aggression. 
Depending on my mood, sometimes I root for them.
Oddly enough, it’s the pacifist orangutans that scare me most. 
Let’s pretend like Zira and Cornelius are Couch Surfers.
They are welcome at the farm anytime!
And Nova’s loincloth wardrobe? 
Yep, my personal fitness goal is to look  exactly like she does in this outfit
and have naturally smooth, shiny legs at all times.
Apparently, along with human civilization, the future has done away with Velcro.
  
   Never has an Apes installment ran on television that I changed the channel and opted to watch something else.  These movies and reruns have the ability to nullify my to-do lists and cause me to pop popcorn and curl up in our Green Room like the outside world doesn’t exist.  And I never feel guilty about the diversion because, as mentioned, the content is plenty beefy enough.  If pressed on how those hours of my life were spent, I can always answer, “pondering the larger issues and struggling with my humanity.”
   Take away my Apes, will you?  “You bloody bastard.” 


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